Kiddo77 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I became friends with "CC" last year as we work together. She has some nice qualities but said she has "no other friends" and now I can see why. She is expremely defensive many times and storms off if she gets upset about something (which seems to be often). For example, the other day I was chatting on lunch break to another friend that I have known for many years. This person had been on vacation so we were catching up. CC was included in the conversation. Suddenly for no reason she left. Afterwards she was very abrasive and rude, and went on to say that she left me and "Sara" together so we could "catch up" without her. It was strange, since we'd done/said nothing to offend or exclude her. But this seems to be a regular occurrance with CC. I know she had a rough life and her life right now needs some major help...she also drinks too much (and jokes about it as if it is fine) and owes her landlord months in back rent, but refuses to address that situation with the landlord or anyone else, except to complain that the landlord has asked at least for a payment plan. She has missed many days of work due to being "sick" and she said she worries about being let go. But she does nothing to try and make things better. I cannot bring things up with her. CC will ask your opinion and then disagree and become very defensive if you say anything. She takes everything as a personal attack. Honestly, I am finding it completely exhausting. I like her, but I have other friends that are not so exhausting. I don't want to be cruel, but I cannot put up with her behavior for much longer, and I cannot bring it up to her without her being defensive. Ideas?
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Your first two paragraphs sound a lot like a friend of mine I'm struggling with. I can relate.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Theres no point of bringing it up unless she wants to listen. Ive had a friend like this. The only way to make someone like this listen, is when you disappear. When she asks why you are ignoring her calls, you tell her just what you wrote here. or sum it up..."You are no fun to be around, because you complain about things that you dont want to fix, youre a drama queen. I dont need that in my life." When I did this, I never heard from that friend again, so I have no idea if he improved on his life. But I felt SO much better, like a big weight was lifted off my shoulders.
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