lostmysoulmate Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I've been suffering for depression for the past 7 months. I'm very insecure and very paranoid. Me and my bf split up 3 months ago and we've stayed in contact, I've been desperate by texting and calling him constanltly. He's told me to only call him in an emergency, that he thinks the world of me, that he still loves me but he can't handle the relationship anymore. He wants me to get back to my old self coz I have completely lost my personality and turned into a different crazy person. I'm terrified even if I get back to my old self he's still not going to be interested and just move on. What do I do to get him back? Xxxx
CaliBabe Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 You can be strong. Gain your sense of independence back. Gain your own interests and hobbies. Work out, go out with girlfriends and be fun. Gain YOU back. After the emotional part is gone and all these wonderful things are left it would be difficult to deny someone so IRRESISTABLE! Work on yourself first. Before you can even think to get him back you need to get YOU back. After your journey you might not even want him back.
CaliBabe Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Also you need complete NC to give him a chance to miss you.
Philosoraptor Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Don't do it to get him back, do it to get you back. I went down the road and did what I needed to do to get my relationship back and ended up ending it because the relationship was the reason I changed and wasn't happy with myself. Do this for you. If things come back and are good, then great, I'm very happy for you. But if they don't then heal yourself and put yourself first.
Author lostmysoulmate Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 I know I need to do it for my own sanity. I'm worried I'm now the pscho ex. Is it too late to start no contact now?
Philosoraptor Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I know I need to do it for my own sanity. I'm worried I'm now the pscho ex. Is it too late to start no contact now? Never too late to start
Author lostmysoulmate Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 I'm just very insecure. I've completely lost myself. I wouldn't want to be with me right now and I'm always doubting myself. I'm worried he's going to move on straight away and be with someone much prettier and more like the person I used to be. I don't know how to get myself back again
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