motive2002 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Need some advice. Is there a simple way of getting over her? How do I break ties and remain amicable? For example, she texted me yesterday to "see how I was doing". Now I had let the cat out of the bag about my feelings towards her, and she told me she is pursuing someone else. I was a little crushed I don't think we can have a platonic relationship, not while I'm still reeling a little over all of it, but I don't want to come off as an ass either by telling her to get lost. Or maybe I should? See the thing is we were spending a fair amount of time together and things seemed to click. The attraction appears to be mutual, but as SOON as I told her how I felt... BAM! "well I'm seeing someone else..." Figures. Any advice on how to proceed here? Thanks
EasyHeart Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 How do I break ties and remain amicable?You can't. Go over to the break up forum and read about No Contact. She is a drug and you are a junkie. Stay away from her, don't talk to her, don't think about her and do everything in your power to stay far, far away from her. It seems counterintuitive because right now you're probably trying to think of all sorts of ways to stay/get close to her, but that is the exact wrong thing to do. She's not interested, so you need to get away from her so that you can move on. It will suck for a few weeks, but you will thank us later.
Truly Lost Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I don't think there is any pleasant way for you to proceed. The facts are: you like her and she isn't interested in you romantically. You have to look out for yourself. She likely already knew your were digging her and she didn't want to say anything till you finally proclaimed it to her. She then came back at you with I'm seeing someone else. That a lot easier to say than, I'm not interest in you in that way. Whatever the case maybe you now have a choice: you can stick around and watch this girl pursue another man or you can distance yourself for awhile (to where you are comfortable) till you can come to terms with the fact that you are only friends. You don't have to sever your ties with her, but likely, if she is involved with someone else...you won't be seeing much of her anyway.
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