Love_Rat Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Can anyone tell me how these sound? Case 1: Me: So was last week your last exam? Her: Yep, finished Me: Great! so if I had to ask you out for some coffee you wouldnt have any excuses to say no, would you? Case2: Me: Could you help me out with something? Her: Ummm I guess? Me: Well, you see, ive been meaning to ask you out but I was always afraid you might say no. So could you help me out on what I should do? I feel more comfotable using these than online "pre-programmed" asking-her-out-lines BTW im new here, pleased to meet everyone
Author Love_Rat Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 By lack of input here, does this mean these are bad lines?
sm1tten Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I hope you aren't this impatient in real life. Neither of them are guaranteed to work and both could land you wishy-washy half-rejections - "Oh, um, sure..." - that never actually pan out. I would go with the first one. It's less pressure because it doesn't sound like a "date", and is more likely to lead to a positive response if she's even remotely interested. It also sounds more confident than predicting a rejection and then putting her on the spot to save your feelings before it's even happened yet. I might revise it to "Great! Maybe we could get coffee sometime soon? :)" because your current wording puts pressure on her to say that she doesn't have an excuse out of politeness. You want this girl to say yes because she's interested, not because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings or come off as rude. Just my opinion. Welcome to LS, and good luck.
ptp Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) Generally any pick up line is bad news. Why not just go up to her and say: "Hi, I noticed you in class I want to get to know you, would you like to have coffee with me?" But if you are going to use a pickup line how about this one :-): You: Check out my magic watch, it tells me if a girl is wearing panties or not. Her: Really! so am I wearing any right now? You: Nope. Her: It is wrong I am. You: Oh my mistake, it is 15 minutes too fast. That is sure to work ;-). Edited July 21, 2011 by ptp
rafallus Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Hi, If you try to memorize those lines, they are no different than "pre-programmed" ones. Try to get her on a little "high" before asking her out, not just spit lines per script without adjusting to her mood.
Author Love_Rat Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the tips people. smitten, Let me edit the second one to include coffee and not "go out": Me: Could you help me out with something? Her: Ummm I guess? Me: Well, you see, ive been meaning to ask you out for coffee but was always afraid you might say no. So could you help me out on what I should do? How about that? I find it cute tbh, and not threatening. Thats right, I dont think it will put her "on the spot" so to speak because its funny and witty at the same time (considering she is calm and smiling before I drop these lines) could the girls here tell me what they would say? Edited July 21, 2011 by Love_Rat
Bullet Proof Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks for the tips people. smitten, Let me edit the second one to include coffee and not "go out": Me: Could you help me out with something? Her: Ummm I guess? Me: Well, you see, ive been meaning to ask you out for coffee but was always afraid you might say no. So could you help me out on what I should do? How about that? I find it cute tbh, and not threatening. Thats right, I dont think it will put her "on the spot" so to speak because its funny and witty at the same time (considering she is calm and smiling before I drop these lines) could the girls here tell me what they would say? How old are you? I would not use that. I would be confused probably, and just tell you to man up and ask me OUT then. I would find it annoying and would want a guy to be confident. Just walk up to her and ask her out, don't sugar coat it, don't put her on the spot and try to make her say Yes if she really doesn't want to. Tell her you found her cute/nice/interesting or whatever and ask if she would like to go for coffee one day when she's free. Or ask for her number and call her later on.
sm1tten Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 It's not threatening, but it sounds like something from a teen movie. Are you a teenager? Then it might work. I'm a twenty-something. If a man came up to me and said he was afraid to ask me for coffee and can I help him out I would probably laugh uncomfortably and wonder where the exit was. It's... contrived. It's also saying "I was afraid to ask you out but I put on my big boy pants and here I am... but I need you to take the next step." Also there is nothing funny or witty about any of that. Be direct. Stop trying to be cute.
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 By lack of input here, does this mean these are bad lines? Try them and see!
Author Love_Rat Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 Okay so the best way is not to complicate it. Just make it simple and ask her out for coffee. Another thing. I had a 10 minute conversation with her and another brief half minute chat in total. Is that enough time to ask her out?
blueline Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 (edited) Speaking as a guy that used to use them, pickup lines are absolutely horrible. Just be yourself. Get her number and simply ask her out. Yupp, that's a perfect amount of time to ask her out. I've bummed a cigarette off a girl and talked to her for 5 minutes, got her number when I bumped into her later at a club after a 30 second conversation, and I took her on her first date ever later two days later (the French don't go on dates, I guess) and it went great. Cool girl . I miss her a bit sometimes. Edited July 22, 2011 by blueline
Sexual Twinkie Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Sometimes being yourself hasn't worked. So why be yourself, and what do you mean be yourself. 1. Learn Game
Sexual Twinkie Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Can anyone tell me how these sound? Case 1: Me: So was last week your last exam? Her: Yep, finished Me: Great! so if I had to ask you out for some coffee you wouldnt have any excuses to say no, would you? Case2: Me: Could you help me out with something? Her: Ummm I guess? Me: Well, you see, ive been meaning to ask you out but I was always afraid you might say no. So could you help me out on what I should do? I feel more comfotable using these than online "pre-programmed" asking-her-out-lines BTW im new here, pleased to meet everyone These are a good start, but if you want to improve your dating life then you should start by practicing and opening as many girls as you can. Learn game
Mr. Slim Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 What was interaction like during the semester? I had several of these end-of-semester-last-chance girls when I was younger and they never went well. Probably because I was in denial that they never gave me a clear sign all semester or else I would have acted on it. Usually the ones that liked me back had given me something to work with long before finals.
nyc_guy2003 Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 It's not threatening, but it sounds like something from a teen movie. Are you a teenager? Then it might work. I'm a twenty-something. If a man came up to me and said he was afraid to ask me for coffee and can I help him out I would probably laugh uncomfortably and wonder where the exit was. It's... contrived. It's also saying "I was afraid to ask you out but I put on my big boy pants and here I am... but I need you to take the next step." Also there is nothing funny or witty about any of that. Be direct. Stop trying to be cute. Agree with this. These lines make it sound like you're kind of spineless and/or have never asked a girl out before.
Nexus One Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Case 3: You: Was last week your last exam? Her: Yep, finished You: You want to go on a coffee date? *smile*
Casablanca Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Not a fan of pick up lines...I can really only seeing them work if the girl was really drunk at a club or party or something... The only time I've used them is with someone I'm already seeing just to joke and be silly with them
KathyM Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Can anyone tell me how these sound? Case 1: Me: So was last week your last exam? Her: Yep, finished Me: Great! so if I had to ask you out for some coffee you wouldnt have any excuses to say no, would you? Case2: Me: Could you help me out with something? Her: Ummm I guess? Me: Well, you see, ive been meaning to ask you out but I was always afraid you might say no. So could you help me out on what I should do? I feel more comfotable using these than online "pre-programmed" asking-her-out-lines BTW im new here, pleased to meet everyone I think you better stick with the tried and true "pre-programmed" lines. Those examples you gave make it appear that you lack confidence.
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