Tom2000 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Hi, Feeling a bit confused at the moment, wanted to know if anyone had any advice as I don't want to talk to my friends and family yet. I had a great girlfriend for just over a year, she is the sweetest and treats me like a King. I am a few years older than her and yet she is the one making plans for the future, which right now I am not ready for! I started to panic and felt too controlled and after being away with some mates, realised I didn't miss her like I used to. I lost that excited feeling. So I decided to break up with her. She was devastated and I really hurt her. She convinced me to be on a break and take some time to think before seeing her in a week or so. I am wondering have I made the right decision, was I right to think that it had to be the end? Will that feeling of being in love come back if I give it a try? Thanks for any help!
without Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 You really hurt her.there are ups and downs in every relationships.but think carefully how much she means to you if you don't really care about her just tell her the truth.confusion makes it worse for her.
brokendreamz Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Taking a break is never a real way to experience the feeling of not being with someone - the saying of 'you don't kow what you've got till it's gone' is never truer than when a relationship ends and you realise there's no going back! Although it's unfair to her to string her along, I would suggest using this time for some serious soul searching. I seriously doubt if that honeymoon period of butterflies and excitement ever lasts out an entire relationship, so if that's your sole reason for leaving I would suggest growing up and having a long hard look at yourself in the mirror! Why not take her away for a long weekend and actually try a bit harder yourself. To be fair though, I think all of us know deep down if something is meant to be or not. Good luck
Author Tom2000 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks guys! Am taking the time to think about it a lot, we actually have a holiday booked in a couple of weeks, so may consider this as a make or break for us. I guess I do have commitment issues, I have never been with anyone longer than a couple of years. My parents divorced when I left home, not sure if that is what is driving this fear. Will keep on thinking...
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