one day Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 This girls and I are idk. She's confusing me beyond words. Now we've been talking since she had her boyfriend. They've been broken up for awhile. I know she's not over him at all. She loves him. Anyways. We've hungout 5 times. 2 with her friends 3 just being us. Now, the first time with 'us' we watched a movie. She ended up staying the night because she was tired. Stayed up late making out. Then she told me she just wanted to be friends. I seriously think she said it only because she didn't wanna go to fast and she still wants her ex. I gave her space and we Hung out again, watched a movie and made out for 7 hours over the night. Then we hung out 3 days ago. And we drove around the city. I had to have her home by 1. She told me she wasnt ready to go home so I reached for her hand. We held hands for a while. 1:30 rolls around and I decide to take her home after buying her a soda and something to eat. I get two kisses goodbye. Now idk. She's a big texter. She always texts me. I keep it short and to the point.. I'm sweet, but I feel like were still friends. But I sense feelings toward me from her. But her ex is still on her mind. What's the deal? Am I something?
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Am I something? A warm distraction, by the sound of things. I suggest you keep your options open and find someone who is really available.
Author one day Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 I don't really think so. I mean. She does always text me first. We've known each other since we were YOUNG. she's a really sweet girl. Just very shy.
Author one day Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 What do you guys think. I would like more perspectives.
robdrm32 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Ask her out next time you see her. If she says ANYTHING BESIDES YES, you have your answer. Walk away. If she tries contacting you just be blunt and tell her you don't hate her but if she doesn't want to be together you need to move on before you can even consider being friends. You are filling the void that her ex no longer does. she isn't evil, she is just taking what you are offering. She already told you she just wants to be friends so thats a clear message. But give it a shot and ask her out.
Author one day Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Oo I have a feeling this is gonna suck.. My dad just tells me to not be as available..
robdrm32 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 good advice. could go a step further and make yourself unavailable. She is emotionally unavailable from what i can gather from your posts. no reason to waste your time on her.
Author one day Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Yeah. I fell for her. So its gonna be hard either way. I'll play unavailable thru the weekend. Ask her to hang out Monday. And we'll see what happens. As if I dont know already. If anymore advice is brought up before then, then ill take it into consideration. I'll tell you guys how it goes -.-
thatone Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 don't let her reject you. put her to a decision, if she offers compromises (which she will, lets "be friends") just say no. letting yourself get strung along is what keeps you up at night obsessing over her. you being the one to do the rejecting if she refuses to break ties with the ex will make you feel a lot better about yourself.
flirtatwork Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 Im in a similar situation except I havent got the actual chance to "hang out", or any kisses, just one on the chin when I went to her work(she works at a coffe shop) and had a coffee there and chatted a little bit. Im just curious what would you do when you hang out? Im so empty with ideas, I dont like the first dates in a theater or something like that because you dont talk much in a theater do ya? What do you do when you hang out? haha sorry for asking for advice when you are doing the same.
thatone Posted July 22, 2011 Posted July 22, 2011 nothing wrong with a dinner absent any other ideas. i agree on the movie, fine for a second date but not the first.
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