scottyboy Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 hello all, Theres this girl that i hang out with on and off for the past half year. We would text a lot and hang out for a little bit, and then out of the blue, texts would become 1 day replies till it fades to none. I could tell from facebook that she probably got back with her ex-bf. Oh well, life goes on without her, and out of the blue ( probably when she breaks up with her bf again ) she would start texting me again. And then it shifts towards the 1 day replies to no replies when she reunites with her bf. This cycle ran its course a few times, till most recently. She starts texting me again, and i notice she became more aggressive - asking me to hang out with her, when before it would be me asking her and her saying " sure " but the actual hanging out is a rare event. I say sure, and we hang out, we have fun being with each other, and when the chance arose i asked about her bf. According to her, she can't handle him due to him being too suffocating and needy. So i figured "Cool, shes the one thats pushing him away". Never have i seen her so aggressive. She askes to come over to my place to watch a movie, she comes, but nothing really happened. We hang out a few more times, i invite her to my place again to watch a movie, and i put my balls to use and make a move. She doesn't back off, and we end up making out. I tried to get in her pants but she claims shes not that easy, so we just kiss for the rest of the night. One thing that might be worth noting is that the entire duration of us hanging out, i never showed any interest in dating her, nor would i ever suggest it. I just wanted to hang out. NOW, here is the ****ed up part. The next day, we didnt talk at all. I understand it might've been a bit awkward so i waited until night then i shot her a text. No reply. Next day, i called her, didn't pick up. Sent her another text, asking for an explanation for the very least, no reply as well. Also found out that she blocked me from seeing her wall on facebook. Does anyone have any idea why she would just disappear? I don't think ex-bf would be a factor, because hes out of the country and i dont think you can make up with someone the day after you fooled around with another guy. I could also tell she was horny as hell when we were making out so im sure she enjoyed it more than she despised it. If anyone can give me a reason for this weird behaviour, it would be greatly appreciated. COLES NOTES: - on and off "hang out" girl starts hanging out with me a lot after she dumped her bf - brought her home for movie - made a move on her and we made out - the following day she disappears and does not reply text / calls and blocks wall on facebook from me
Tasha49 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Maybe she isn't into you romantically, and that her inviting herself over is only because she is looking for a friend. Maybe when you made a move she didn't want to embarrass you so went with it. And when you tried getting in her pants it went too far, and far enough where she felt the need to stop you. I feel like making her FB wall private was so that she could post something about you without you seeing it and getting upset. You may have been too forward and it made her feel awkward. There could be a lot of maybe's. But with your details no one can give a definite answer. For now, don't call or text her, or anything. If she is interested at all, let her come to you. Besides, you may come across as desperate if you keep trying to talk to her. Wait it out.
Author scottyboy Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 i swore to myself that i wouldnt contact her again. i dont really mind that shes gone.... but it screws me up wondering the reason why
betterdeal Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 She sounds quite predictable to me. When she's inclined, she likes to hang with you and, occasionally, get physical. And she like to hang with this other guy at other times. She doesn't like clingy and probably sees your next day texts / calls as heavy and clingy and ignores them. So, what's on offer is that. If you like hanging out occasionally and getting wriggly occasionally, do that. Don't get heavy with her if you don't like being ignored.
KathyM Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 hello all, Theres this girl that i hang out with on and off for the past half year. We would text a lot and hang out for a little bit, and then out of the blue, texts would become 1 day replies till it fades to none. I could tell from facebook that she probably got back with her ex-bf. Oh well, life goes on without her, and out of the blue ( probably when she breaks up with her bf again ) she would start texting me again. And then it shifts towards the 1 day replies to no replies when she reunites with her bf. This cycle ran its course a few times, till most recently. She starts texting me again, and i notice she became more aggressive - asking me to hang out with her, when before it would be me asking her and her saying " sure " but the actual hanging out is a rare event. I say sure, and we hang out, we have fun being with each other, and when the chance arose i asked about her bf. According to her, she can't handle him due to him being too suffocating and needy. So i figured "Cool, shes the one thats pushing him away". Never have i seen her so aggressive. She askes to come over to my place to watch a movie, she comes, but nothing really happened. We hang out a few more times, i invite her to my place again to watch a movie, and i put my balls to use and make a move. She doesn't back off, and we end up making out. I tried to get in her pants but she claims shes not that easy, so we just kiss for the rest of the night. One thing that might be worth noting is that the entire duration of us hanging out, i never showed any interest in dating her, nor would i ever suggest it. I just wanted to hang out. NOW, here is the ****ed up part. The next day, we didnt talk at all. I understand it might've been a bit awkward so i waited until night then i shot her a text. No reply. Next day, i called her, didn't pick up. Sent her another text, asking for an explanation for the very least, no reply as well. Also found out that she blocked me from seeing her wall on facebook. Does anyone have any idea why she would just disappear? I don't think ex-bf would be a factor, because hes out of the country and i dont think you can make up with someone the day after you fooled around with another guy. I could also tell she was horny as hell when we were making out so im sure she enjoyed it more than she despised it. If anyone can give me a reason for this weird behaviour, it would be greatly appreciated. COLES NOTES: - on and off "hang out" girl starts hanging out with me a lot after she dumped her bf - brought her home for movie - made a move on her and we made out - the following day she disappears and does not reply text / calls and blocks wall on facebook from me Sounds to me like she was using you. She's still in love with her boyfriend, but whenever she gets exasperated with him, she wants to see you. I think she got scared off when she made out with you, and realized what she really wanted was her boyfriend. Don't waste your time with this girl. She's not emotionally available.
sm1tten Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Or... i never showed any interest in dating her, nor would i ever suggest it. I just wanted to hang out. and she either was only interested in a makeout session OR was put off by what she perceived as lack of real interest. Or, even, she enjoyed the attention and now that it's gone a bit far (where she's physically cheating on her boyfriend) is pulling back and keeping her panties on. Many possibilities.
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