Star Gazer Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I am just being honest. I thought it may be helpful for him to think about how he can project more masculinity. He is barking up the wrong tree with the race thing. Yup. It's not a race thing. He may be insecure about his race, but it's NOT why he has trouble with the ladies.
Star Gazer Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 The pictures that Star is referring to are a few I have posted on FB of me being drunk or silly. I'm quite comfortable with my sexuality, so if I look gay in a picture, so what? It's not how I usually act and it's usually just me making fun of something. I take care of myself and have no problem wearing bright pink in public. Gay? . Your posture in MOST if not all of your candid, non-posed pictures is a little effeminate. I know I'm not crazy. You started an entire thread here about women always thinking you're gay, when they meet you in person.
Author USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 Your posture in MOST if not all of your candid, non-posed pictures is a little effeminate. Alright, I'll work on it...
Dust Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Alright, I'll work on it... My guess you don’t try hard enough. I wouldn’t work on looking less womanly. Just try harder and be yourself. Don’t reject yourself. Don’t come on here looking for advice or more importantly affirmations. You need to know you are just as good as any one. When you come on here do it to help yourself think of new ideas. Then put those to action. Don’t come on here looking to find anything that isn’t with in yourself already. You got this man. The great thing about being a man is the older you get the better you will do with women as long as you just don’t die or get sick. For when you do get sick and or die do it with out regret. Do it knowing tried.
Ms. Joolie Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Great pics, USMCHokie! Shame, shame on you! You've made yourself out to be some unattractive weirdo this whole time but you are very handsome! Go for weekend getaways here and there to more culturally diverse cities. You'll have the time of your life!
Author USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 My guess you don’t try hard enough. I wouldn’t work on looking less womanly. Just try harder and be yourself. Don’t reject yourself. Don’t come on here looking for advice or more importantly affirmations. You need to know you are just as good as any one. When you come on here do it to help yourself think of new ideas. Then put those to action. Don’t come on here looking to find anything that isn’t with in yourself already. You got this man. The great thing about being a man is the older you get the better you will do with women as long as you just don’t die or get sick. For when you do get sick and or die do it with out regret. Do it knowing tried. You're right, I don't really try when it comes to this...and you're also right, I have to snap out of Debbie Downer mode... Thanks.
Author USMCHokie Posted July 23, 2011 Author Posted July 23, 2011 Great pics, USMCHokie! Shame, shame on you! You've made yourself out to be some unattractive weirdo this whole time but you are very handsome! Go for weekend getaways here and there to more culturally diverse cities. You'll have the time of your life! Thanks... I actually went to Miami a couple weeks ago, and it was definitely the most diiverse place I had ever been to...and I had a bad experience that really messed with my head and made me want to give up with women altogether...so I guess there's a reason why I'm thinking like this right now...
Feelsgoodman Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Every race has women like that. For every 1 asian woman that only dates white guys, there are like 5 white girls that only date black guys. It doesn't bother me or bring me down. Why should you take it personal? I've always wondered about the coal burners and asian chicks that date white guys. It doesn't bother me, but it makes me wonder why those people would be prejudiced against their own race. I figure it's a form of self-hate.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 You're nice looking (really) but you don't project strength or masculinity in these photos. You look insecure and like you're overcompensating a bit. I'ts hard for me to say what it is exactly, something about your posture, smile and grooming maybe. You look a little too eager and ready to please. You are showing extreme ignorance and racism with this comment. Asians project strength and masculinity in different ways. Remember those crazy japan pilots from WWII? A country bumpkin like you would look at their black and white pictures and think 'yeah, they look insecure and must be compensating for something'. But I bet you wouldn't think that way if you saw them in person...as they rammed their freaking airplanes into your ship subjecting your entire crew to a fiery death.
Ms. Joolie Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Asians project strength and masculinity in different ways. Amen to this! OP, you have no idea what a gift your culture is! Be yourself! (and let women know the real you.)
Dust Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Thanks... I actually went to Miami a couple weeks ago, and it was definitely the most diiverse place I had ever been to...and I had a bad experience that really messed with my head and made me want to give up with women altogether...so I guess there's a reason why I'm thinking like this right now... What happened? I personally find that when women are in Florida they are at their best. Though I’m sure what happened to you happened at the night life scene. That puts every one on a type of guard.
Afishwithabike Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Thanks... I actually went to Miami a couple weeks ago, and it was definitely the most diiverse place I had ever been to...and I had a bad experience that really messed with my head and made me want to give up with women altogether...so I guess there's a reason why I'm thinking like this right now... I too want to know what happened. If Miami is the most diverse place you've been to, I wonder where you grew up. Try southern California or even the Bay Area. I bet you'd have a lot more luck in Cali.
Ms. Joolie Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 I'm sorry it happened and I want to know what happened, too
krz12 Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Maybe women assume that you as an Asian guy would never go for them because they're white. I really like Asian guys. (Asian and white nerdy types... yes please!) Heck, I even lived for a year in Japan. Yet I've noticed that actually getting Asian guys to talk to me is really, really difficult. (Broad generalization based only on personal experience.) The guy either seems aloof, or super shy. To continue with the super broad generalizations, it's also been my experience that men from certain cultural backgrounds are more likely to want women from their same cultural background... Indian men want traditional Indian women, Japanese guys overwhelming prefer Japanese women, etc. I live in a very large Hmong area, and even just becoming FRIENDS with Hmong guys seems impossible. My male friend is 3rd generation Chinese, quite enough to be considered "American" and yet his parents still freak out at the idea of him marrying anyone non-Asian. This isn't to discourage you, but to suggest why white women might be writing you off. It might have nothing to do with your physical attractiveness. These things will always feedback each other, at least for men. The Harold and Kumar generalizations here are of course rooted in some version of truth. This is especially true if you're non-Christian.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 You are showing extreme ignorance and racism with this comment. Asians project strength and masculinity in different ways. Remember those crazy japan pilots from WWII? A country bumpkin like you would look at their black and white pictures and think 'yeah, they look insecure and must be compensating for something'. But I bet you wouldn't think that way if you saw them in person...as they rammed their freaking airplanes into your ship subjecting your entire crew to a fiery death. Geez dude, can you read? That poster never said that Asians don't project masculinity, just that Hokie as an individual doesn't. It has nothing to do with him being Asian. It's in his posture and smile.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 23, 2011 Posted July 23, 2011 Geez dude, can you read? That poster never said that Asians don't project masculinity, just that Hokie as an individual doesn't. It has nothing to do with him being Asian. It's in his posture and smile. First of all, you have no right to speak to me this way. You are a proven sociopath who enjoys torturing her boyfriend, as has been evidenced in your numerous posts on this board. You have no credibility whatsoever. Second, geez dudette, can YOU read? I said that asians project masculinity differently. The other poster betrayed his racialist thinking by assuming that masculinity is projected the same way across racial lines. In America, a tobacco chewing hillbilly or a black drug dealer who wears a napkin wrapped around his noggin may be viewed as the epitome of masculinity, but in many other countries, such guys would be seen as flaming homos. In other words, a guy like the OP may be seen as gay or effeminate by American standards, yet extremely masculine by asian standards. Conversely, a guy like 50 cent, while considered 'macho' by American standards, would be seen as a boy toy for perverted old men in a country like Mongolia or Uzbekistan, for example.
Hot Chick Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 (edited) Sorry Hokie but to be honest, I often get a gay vibe from your pics. It has nothing to do with you being Asian. Since you are being so "honest," Eternal Sunshine, I am going to be honest with you. You have posted your photo on here and you are not all that. In fact I'd rate you about a 5/6 facial wise. In addition, you have a definite masculine type of look in your face. You have also been on here admitting that you have junk in the trunk..... USM Chokie is a lot more attractive than you are, ES....and a lot more masculine looking than you are feminine looking...sorry, but...if we're being honest here....USMChokie, you should have no trouble, you are a good looking guy! Edited July 26, 2011 by Hot Chick
EricaH329 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Since you are being so "honest," Eternal Sunshine, I am going to be honest with you. You have posted your photo on here and you are not all that. In fact I'd rate you about a 5/6 facial wise. In addition, you have a definite masculine type of look in your face. You have also been on here admitting that you have junk in the trunk..... USM Chokie is a lot more attractive than you are, ES....and a lot more masculine looking than you are feminine looking...sorry, but...if we're being honest here....USMChokie, you should have no trouble, you are a good looking guy! I didn't realize that ES had asked for your honest opinion about the way she looks. I think that was completely irrelevant to the main topic. Hokie had asked a question, and ES gave her opinion of what the answer might be. Hokie, I personally don't think you give off a 'gay vibe'. Then again, I don't only have pictures to go off of. I believe that some people may feel like asians are 'inferior' or whatever, but those aren't the type of people you should be looking to date. I am sorry you are struggling with this. I know that if you really wanted to date, you wouldn't have a problem doing so. That reason alone should be enough to push all the other insecurities about being asian, aside.
Hot Chick Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 She posts a lot on this site with dating woes and this is another aspect of her to think about....
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