Paige1377 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 So, it's been a month since my ex fiancee of six years let my daughter and I move to another state 12 hours away from. Now, I am not going to lie it's been really hard, first week I was crying every two minutes....telling my daughter that she was sorry that daddy had left bc of me. However I am working each day to move on and I have good days and bad days. Anyways, the reason we broke up was his choice, not mine. He said he didn't love me anymore and that he thought it was best for us to break up bc our daughter didn't need to see it later on. We had been fighting a lot, I was insecure bc he had been texting this girl nonstop, going out with his buddies and suffocating him bc I had some serious trust issues. He was tired of my weight, my nagging and me suffocating him. I knew this girl was someone he was interested in but he wouldn't tell me. Since we have broken up our contact has been minimal, discussing our child and also finances for her and him seeing her. We have talked a couple times about us, and he has responded with I don't know, honestly I am not sure what could happen but he definitely doesn't want it now. He also has told me when he got angry one night that he was so happy with his freedom, loved it. I called him a couple nights ago crying, telling him I wanted our family and he laughed, said it probably wouldn't work and that was a free woman. Now, I have invaded his space, bc I found out that girl he was texting sent him a pic of herself to his email and five days after we left he went on vacation with her and used money that was for his daughter on her. Yeah, I called and got pissed bc he was using his daughters money how he shouldn't, I didn't ask who he was with, and he said I needed to just leave him alone and stop being "psycho" that we aren't together. He won't tell me to move on though, he totally pisses me off with that. It's like he just wants to hurt me. Now when we talk it's super short, I don't discuss the relationship and I don't get in his business, bc he's right his personal life isn't my business. However, he's been such a jerk lately, rude especially since he is planning on visiting my daughter. I told him when he gets here we need to discuss some things ie her finances, her visitations. He snapped back with I am not coming to see you. The only reason want to make those plans is bc honestly I can't talk to him as often as I have been anymore. I am still in love with him, he knows that and it's really hard to have to talk to him even two or three times a week. I have asked him to use email or text and he refuses just keeps calling. Now I forgot to mention he's a huge control freak, and he doesn't like anyone else having control, which is why he shocked me when he let his daughter so far away from him. I am in the process of moving on bc he has moved on from what I can tell and if that makes him happy so be it. I have tried ignoring his calls pushing email on him but if I got too long he keeps calling until I answer bc he knows I love him and I don't want to piss him off. He's crazy when he's pissed off. I have to see him in a couple days and I am way nervous bc his controlling power over me has diminished a bit with the distance, however whenever I am around him he just reels me back in. In the beginning and up until a couple days ago I wanted him again, now his actions have made me see this really is for the best and I can find someone new. My daughter needs someone who will love her enough to never let her go and that will be me for sure. My question is what can I do to help with the process of moving on....and to help with the control he can have over me. If we start the breakup and communication over our daughter like this it will never change. I let him control me for six years and he is not doing that to my daughter, that's a big conclusion I came to as well why we won't work. How can I show him I will not take his crap? Also, why is he being so rude to me now? I didn't do anything to him, why suddenly start being a jerk? Answers please sorry for longness! Thanks My question
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