confusedgirl56 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I've gone on a date with this guy twice. I really felt for him. He was everything I was looking for. After 2 dates, I had to leave town. Since then, we chatted online or talked on the phone 2-3 times/week, for about 3 weeks now. They're mostly sex chats. A week ago, he asked me to come and visit him and he would pay for the trip. I agreed to it, but after seeing how slow he went about getting the tickets. I got upset and told him that I'm not coming. After that, he didn't email me for a few days. I sent him another message, telling him that I'm really into him. He called me immediately and texted me after that call, saying that "if we start dating, we probably would end up getting married. Lol" Next day, he texted me again and wanted to chat. I was in a meeting at the time and told him that maybe in an hour and he could call me when he wanted to chat later. I haven't heard back from him since then. And it has been 2 days. I decided to follow the NC rule and let him come to me. But it makes me feel sad about the possibility that he might be moving on. Is he done with me? Why did he say that he wanted to chat, then decided not to contact me for 2 days? Is he just busy or not interested anymore? Does it really take that long to just text me and let me know that he won't be calling that night?
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 If this is the same guy who received a handjob, sex chat, and nonstop texting from you ... yes, I would imagine that there isn't going to be anything further. Next time you get interested in a fellow, behave a lot differently if you'd like some longevity in the relationship. I'm sorry that your feelings will be wounded, but there was not much time invested and you will be over it pretty soon. Promise.
Rinas Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 we chatted online or talked on the phone 2-3 times/week, for about 3 weeks now. They're mostly sex chats. This here is pretty much your answer, sorry.
Author confusedgirl56 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Thank you for your advice, Rinas and Mme. Chaucer!
Sebstian Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 My last 3 long term girl friends all had sex with me the first night. It didn't make any negative difference what so ever to me. Maybe it's just because I'm from Scandinavia. I think it's great to start out with something sexual, and then if the feelings follow it can just grow into something beautiful. I say go for it. Go visit him and see what it is. Don't make a big drama out of things so soon. // Seb
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