LadyD06 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Do you think its possible to be with someone and consider marriage, if the passion is undeniable and when your with this person you just cant leave the room without thinking about them..... but you have nothing in common such as activities like swimming, having pets, fishing etc.???
Jessica45 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Yes, I think it's possible. But for a successful marriage, I think its important to develop some common interests or learn to share in your partner's.
Author LadyD06 Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 I guess over time we'll get involved in each others activities... but i've suggested a few things to him but he always turns them down we always end up doing what he wants. I just really need other ppl opinions and see if its worked before??
Eddie Edirol Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I guess over time we'll get involved in each others activities... but i've suggested a few things to him but he always turns them down we always end up doing what he wants. I just really need other ppl opinions and see if its worked before?? What youre looking for is him to change. That is what kills relationships. You have to enjoy him as he is, and dont try to change him, and assume he will NEVER get involved in your activities. You try to change him and that undeniable passion will die very soon. When the honeymoon period wears off, he will resent you for trying to push things on him he doesnt like doing, and you will resent him when he keeps telling you no. So it is possible to be with them and consider marriage, but it most likely wont last very long.
make me believe Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 My husband and I don't have many common hobbies, but we do have a few (like hiking, being outdoors, and our pets). I think the fact that your BF always turns down your suggestions & makes you do what he wants is a bigger red flag than not having common interests. My husband and I are both always willing to compromise & we've both done things with the other that we never would have imagined ourselves doing before. It's fun to learn about other person's interests & hobbies. It's concerning that your BF refuses to do the stuff you enjoy.
xxoo Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 It sounds like the chemistry is strong, but chemistry isn't enough if the other character traits needed for a relationship aren't there. He turns down all your suggestions, and you always do what he wants. That makes him sound selfish. Is he selfish? Are you too accomodating? Those character issues will cause resentment, and eat away at the sexual relationship, more than having different hobbies.
Author LadyD06 Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 great so i'm getting yes and no, but what i take away from this is we have to find a balance... and btw i'm no doormat lol
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