Imajerk17 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) No, I'm not going to give some twaddle about how it's all about inner beauty and not about outer possessions, blah, blah, blah.... (although that is true). I am thinking of two people I know: One is a director of a high-flying research group. Has had that position for a good 10 years. So he has been earning the big bucks for a while. He drives a 12-year-old Honda Civic. Another person has (at best) a moderately paying job. However, he also has an expensive lifestyle, especially during the good ol' days 5 years ago when credit was easy. Since he lives beyonds his means a lot, he often has trouble paying his bills and other credit problems. He drives a 4-year-old BMW. And it's a big one too--the 6-Series. Anyway, food for thought on a hot Wednesday afternoon. Edited July 20, 2011 by Imajerk17
Feelin Frisky Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I'd post something but it would just be twaddle.
zengirl Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 As long as it runs and the doors open and stuff, I don't think the kind of car matters personally. It seems like something guys (in themselves/other guys) care about more than women, frankly. It's a moot point in dating. The few girls who get turned on by great cars are either into cars (and if they're normal, nice gals, they won't discriminate for meh cars, but they may like a car that sparks their interest), a rarity, or just materialistic Jersey Shore types.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I drive a brand new Audi A5. Most chicks are impressed, but it's not really a big deal. I had an old Honda Accord before and it was never a problem.
Jessica45 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Possessions (nice car, big house, etc) doesn't always mean the guy has money. It may mean he's ass deep in debt and fiscally irresponsible. Girls who go by material goods may get what they deserve.
Ms. Joolie Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 One is a director of a high-flying research group. Has had that position for a good 10 years. So he has been earning the big bucks for a while. He drives a 12-year-old Honda Civic. I don't know... sounds suspicious. Is he married or divorced?
tigressA Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Possessions (nice car, big house, etc) doesn't always mean the guy has money. It may mean he's ass deep in debt and fiscally irresponsible. Girls who go by material goods may get what they deserve. I agree with this. I'm also quite suspicious of men who have flashy possessions. Makes me think they're highly insecure and use money to impress people. I almost said no to the first date with my BF because he drove a Corvette (he has since sold it for a much more modest vehicle).
serial muse Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I don't really notice cars much. Apparently this was actually irksome to my guy when we first met years ago, because he thought me not noticing the make and model of his car (for the record, not a Porsche or anything, it's just an ancient Honda Civic) meant I didn't care about him. But I honestly just don't think about it. Don't really care about cars, is all.
sm1tten Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 In Chicago, having a car is kind of a "oh that's nice, but eh...?" sort of thing. One of my best male friends lives in western New York. Not having a car out there is like a dating death sentence. But I think it's not so much the "niceness" of the possession so much as the actual possession of it, for some. As though having a car, condo, and a dog mean that you are more adult than someone with a bike, rental, fish.
oldguy Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) I was owned by the big house and all of the toys once. Within the past 10 to 12 years I've down sized from a nearly 5,000 square foot home I was making payments on to just over 2,000 square foot home that's just about paid for & I can afford to insure, heat, cool & maintain it. From... a lot of pricey toys to a couple that are paid for. I don't have as big a house or as many toys but what I do have, I own, they no longer own me. And I don't care who that impresses because I sleep well & live better today because of it. My grocery bill is my biggest monthly expense now & it's a third of what it was a few years ago Edited July 20, 2011 by oldguy
EasyHeart Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 No, I'm not going to give some twaddle about how it's all about inner beauty and not about outer possessions, blah, blah, blah.... (although that is true). I am thinking of two people I know: One is a director of a high-flying research group. Has had that position for a good 10 years. So he has been earning the big bucks for a while. He drives a 12-year-old Honda Civic. Another person has (at best) a moderately paying job. However, he also has an expensive lifestyle, especially during the good ol' days 5 years ago when credit was easy. Since he lives beyonds his means a lot, he often has trouble paying his bills and other credit problems. He drives a 4-year-old BMW. And it's a big one too--the 6-Series. Anyway, food for thought on a hot Wednesday afternoon.What about the guy who drives a new BMW that he paid for in cash?
alphamale Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Anyway, food for thought on a hot Wednesday afternoon. i would prefer an ice-cold lemonade
TaurusTerp Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Yeah dude the majority of women obviously don't care about nice cars Or nice houses Or your physique Or (Insert whatever delusion you want to make yourself feel better)
one goal Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I just bought a 2012 Mustang GT Premium. The girl I have a crush on at school said it's really nice, but she said she would never spend that much on a car.
Mark1 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I just bought a 2012 Mustang GT Premium. 100% convinced you are a troll.
sigurpol Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 100% convinced you are a troll. Hahahaha. Anyway, are we talking about purposefully owning cars that are out of our financial limits to impress people? I admit I own(ed) a car (twice now) that was out of my limit.. not completely, but I was working for my car for a while. I guess I just have a soft-spot for some models. And I'm not even a "car-guy"
NoReallyThatHappened Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Does it have four wheels and go forward? Yes? That's all I need to know about a guy's car.
Mr. Savage Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 There are two different kinds of car guys though. The ones who only buy a certain car for status and to impress others and no other reason. And there are guys like me who truly appreciate nice cars. Appreciate styling, horsepower, handling, and just like cruising. I'm not trying to say to anyone "look how great I am" when I drive my car. If someone compliments me on my car it is usally from another car guy just saying "nice ride man". And for the record I do not wanna date a girl who would only want me for my car. How vapid is that!
irc333 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Another person has (at best) a moderately paying job. However, he also has an expensive lifestyle, especially during the good ol' days 5 years ago when credit was easy. Since he lives beyonds his means a lot, he often has trouble paying his bills and other credit problems. He drives a 4-year-old BMW. And it's a big one too--the 6-Series. Yeah, chances are any 20-something that's driving a fancy sports car, probably can barely get by with the payments on it, living beyond their means, $200 pair of sunglasses and more....being part of the US debt problem, there's probably more than those out there than some of us know, because they come off as someone that's living a lucrative lifestyle.
daphne Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 One guy I dated had a porsche and an SUV. He was also broke. In the parking lot where I work, there is an overabundance of nice cars. There are a number of Porsches, Mercedes, a few jags and a high percentage of BMW's. A new employee once asked "Is everyone here rich?" I used to drive into work in my old Honda Accord for years until it fell apart, much to the chagrin and amusement of my coworkers who knew I could afford something a little nicer. That being said, I did upgrade when it did fall apart.
LadyD06 Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 if you buy the expensive car etc, you obviously are looking for a materialistic person... if you drive the old honda you're gonna get a real person, not someone you have to blind by shiny things iin order for them to sleep with you. lol
alphamale Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 when i had my red convertible corvette it was pretty easy finding dates...
Star Gazer Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 IME, the car you drive is very telling. Just as stated in the OP, there are people who will drive a car far outside their means... That's telling. Just as telling as a guy who could afford a Rolls driving an inexpensive Honda, just in a different way. Me, I prefer to date men whose vehicles reflect their lifestyle and their means...something that really, truly, fits who they are and where they are in their life, and their lifestyle. For me, this tends to be some sort of nice-ish 4WD.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I'm with the majority on this one -- as long as it runs and isn't a POS, it's cool. I do like for the guy to HAVE a car, though. It's my one superficial preference.
Sanman Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) The problem with cars right now is that they are all over the map. That loaded accord is entry level BMW money. Some of the richest people I know drive a Prius for the environmental benefits, the commuting benefits (HOV lanes), and economic benefits. My neighbor went from a Mercedes to a Hyundai Sonata for the gas mileage. Did you buy the car or did you lease it? Do you park it in poor/urban areas where it could be easily damaged? Would you prefer other commodities (flat screens, iphones, nicer computers)? Personally, I am the opposite of many people as a car guy. I love small tossable cars as this is what I grew up with. I love to autocross and road race as well. The new mazda 2 (around 14k) is one of the most fun cars I have driven along with the MINI. I could buy a nicer, bigger car but don't need one. Edited July 21, 2011 by Sanman
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