Scarlett513 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Sorry, I know this is a repetitive topic so I'll keep it short. There's a guy who works in my building who I've had a little crush on for the past few years. About a year ago I handed him an opportunity on a silver platter - I sent him an email about a specific question that he could have answered with no need for an extended conversation (we never email). He responded to my question, proceeded to ask me questions about unrelated topics ("what are you doing this weekend?", etc) but when I replied, he never responded back. I took the disappearance as a signal and cut my losses. Yet whenever we see each other he is still very friendly and always seems so excited see me. Anyway I'm leaving my job in a few weeks and my friends think I was perhaps not clear enough the first time around and that should try again. They see it as I have nothing to lose... But I'm really not trying to set myself up for double rejection. He doesn't wear a ring but I dont know if he's available and I have no way of finding out.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 What was the question? Usually when women say they are being specific and obvious, they are not. They are trying to indirectly word things in a way to avoid direct rejection. In your case, if he responded, then you responded to him but didnt ask anymore questions, he might also think youre not interested enough to keep the conversation going. if you want to avoid the feeling of rejection, try to spark something again but do not expect anything for it. Expect that he already isnt curious about you.
zengirl Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Why not? At worst he says "No," which really isn't that bad. Give it a whirl.
oaks Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 He doesn't wear a ring but I dont know if he's available and I have no way of finding out. You've had a crush on him for years and haven't figured out yet if he's available? No way of finding out? Can't you ask him? Or ask a colleague? I'm guessing you'll be too timid to ask him again, but really there's nothing to lose.
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