micot Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 hi well my story datted a girl 6 yrs she broke up with me [dummped me] 3 months ago no reasons etc. relationship was good i thought she was the ''ONE'' [she said she felt the same towards me ]. we've had extremly limited contact via phone talking basically about nothing . she's definatly seeing some guy now or even datting i know it , she knows i know it ,i've mentioned it to her figured maybe she'd say that was her reason for dummping me she never admitted it to me so whatever. she said to me she considers me a ''dear friend'' , and said about us ''never know what the future holds'' i laughed at those comments and said sure .[that was like 2 sweeks ago ] when she came by to pick up belongings which i was fine with . 2 days ago i had to have a slight medical procedure , an angiogram [nothing major] BUT i was un easy , nervous about it cause i never had a procedure before .my ex heard through friends i was doing this , she called to say ''good luck'' ''don't be nervous everything will be o.k.'' i care about you as a friend'' i thanked her, had the procedure it was o.k. . called her later on that day [as we planned to let her know how it went] i told her it went o.k. i survived we laughed,i gotten some papers for after care and about medicaions i got ,i asked her as a ''friend'' can you stop over go over this paper work with me i don't wanna do anything wrong and mess up [i'm not good with medical stuff and she kind of is ] she said she could stop by after dinner time that night , she never came or called. i called her following morning A to see if she was o.k. B-to ask what happend she just said she was too tired i said o.k. THEN asked if after work was good for her this day [tues] she said it would be o.k. ,she never came or called again .i wrote it off of her helping me . today wends i called her before work said ''if you didn't want to help me you should have just said no , i got your hint'' she said she felt she was comming down with something and went right to bed .whatever ... i mentioned a watch i had left at her place , she said it was their .i said cool i'll pop over and pick it up , leave it in your mailbox or something she said oh i can just run it over to you sometime , i said well i'm leaving this Sat for a few days would Thurs , or Fri be better for her she said Fri afternoonish ,asked where i was going i told her ''when i ask you questions even general ones i get no reply'' so i'm not gonna say anything anymore [not even to our mutual friends] my buisness is my buisness .. someone on here posted a topic that they changed their mind set towards their ex and it was working for them WELL i have just changed mine last night after waiting for nothing and i admit i do feel more at ease .she doesn't want to be with me , or give me the time of day so be it AND if i don't get the watch back Fri afternoon i'll go buy another watch simple .i attempted to be nice to my ex BUT got crapped on didn't do full no contact cause figured we'd communicate which happend BUT not how i thought we should communicate you know about us . soo now i say to her sail la ve IF she does show up here Fri afternoon with my watch i'll thank her,wish her well and sail la ve i wont be made to look foolish or like some idiot IF it was her going through something and she asked me to help her i'd be thir or call if i told her i would i wouldn't leave someone hanging that's disrespectful OH P.S. a month ago i lost my grand ma who lived over seas ,she knew of this and told me she's be here for me to talk with etc SHE never came or called still to this day a month later about that i don't need a bulding to fall on me to see , she can care less about me soo sail la ve , live and learn AND don't believe everything someone says to you even if it's your partner it's sad yet it's true
Chi townD Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Okay, rule of thumb. When they break up for you for someone else and they say, "I hope we can still be friends." They don't actually mean it. One of two things, they say that to keep you on the backburner to see if this new guy is gonna work out. If it doesn't...well, they still have you waiting on the sideline. Or number two, they say that to try and rid themselves of the guilt of dumping you for someone else. So, if you're on friendly terms, she doesn't have to feel like the bad guy. Both selfishly motivated and delusional. Cut ties and find a girl that has some level of respect when it comes to relationships.
just_scott Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 wow together 6 yrs and it was all good / and you had a medial procedure and she knew you did and didn't even call you or come see you as she said she would and give you a hand KICK HER TO THE CURB if she contacts you do what i been doing [works great ] use song quotes like Beat It or Dont Go Away Mad Just Get The F**k Away etc. dude she left you hangin waitin on her that's a big DISRESPECT i've changed my mind set towards my ex of 4 yrs and she's with some other guy MAY have even hooked up with him while we were together and i feel AWESOME she aint worth m thinkin about or wonderin about screw em they don't wanna be with you move on i was a wreck at first BUT then just snapped out of it didn't have to go ''no contact'' or anything ACTUALLY i get a kick out of when my ex contacts me i don't tell he anything i'm doing ,i give her vague puzzeling answers and song quotes and i know it frustrates the hell out of her i even saw her and the new guy together more than once i yelled hey to them both and waved even bought them a round of drinks [bastards never even thanked me for that ]it's just a game nothing more don't sweat over some girl who isn't into you anymore it happens IF you run into her or them just wave n smile THINK of th money your savin by not havin to spend on 2 now use the extra cash n go buy yourself somethin cool ,i look at my past relationship like o.k. she'shis problem now AND when i was with her i actually did love and care for her told her so quite often NOW if she were in a car wreck i wouldn't even care IF mine ever wanted to get back together and promised to treat me like a king i'd laugh SHE has called me and asked if i'd like to meet up for a drink etc . i said ''you payin '' lolthen still declined
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