SwampDonkey Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Split with my girl 2-weeks ago and went NC instantly, I didn't even let her finish her call, as soon as I heard "it's not going to work" I hung up. We live 50-miles apart. She sent me a letter after a week saying all the usual - "you need someone better than me" etc and on the back it said - "I don't know how but one day I will get your things back to you". Now call me picky, but isn't it as simple as putting them in a box and taking them to the Post Office? She made it sound really dramatic. Why would anyone want to hang on to a bunch of clothes after a relationship has ended? Can anyone enlighten me as to what might be going through her mind?
thelovingkind Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I wouldn't read too far into it - seems like she's just lazy and stingy. Make it clear that returning them is not optional.
smudge21 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Maybe she feels guilty and wants to try and get some sort of forgiveness from you, without asking for it. Maybe a quick message would set her feelings straight, but you're not going to do that. When a relationship ends, the dumper (or at least the one that brought about the end) can feel guilt or sadness and want to push these feelings onto the dumpee. It's like they know they've done wrong and don't want to deal with those feelings. That being said, there's no way for sure to know what's going on in her head, so try not to think about it. If you want your stuff back then simply send someone to get it if she refuses to post it. Try to leave contact to a minimum if you have to speak.
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