kirstyleanne231192 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 My ex boyfriend broke up with me last Wednesday because he has had a lot of things going on in his head and he has'nt known what he wants with anything anymore. He said that he didn't want to bring me down with him anymore whilst his head is like it because he cares about me a lot. We went away to Spain for a week on the 5th and we hoped that it would help him to clear his mind, it was working until we both got drunk and things got bought up. I was really upset as i love him loads, I have been reading up on the internet a lot of things on how to bring your ex back to you and i started NC when we broke up and went out with my friends more. It seemed to me like he was forgetting about me easily and wasn't affected at all by the break up. On Saturday night my mum and dad went away on holiday for the next 2 weeks and two guy mates i have stayed over mine on the sofas. On Monday morning my ex contacted after only 5 days of me using NC saying he misses me and wanted to see me. So, i went round his house and he was apologising over and over and told me it has been really hard for him without me and he was being all cuddly/kissy. He said that he found out about the 2 guys and that he got jealous and thought i had moved on already without him and it hurt him. He said he wants to fix things with me but wants to be friends with me whilst he clears his head so he doesnt hurt me like he was doing when we was together. He said he is not saying the relationship is over forever. He has been texting me every now and again since i saw him, i think he got jealous again yesterday as i was going pub with friends and he text me to say 'have fun' and today i had a job interview and he text me to say 'good luck' His facebook statuses have been saying things like 'feeling low as low can get' etc. What do i do next with him? I hope someone can tell me
English-Rose Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I'm sure he is feeling low and having his doubts about his decision but at the end of the day it's self preservation u should be considering. If he wants u back he will let u know but in the meantime IMO u ought to be focussing on worst case scenario, ie it's over for good, and getting your own confidence levels back up. No contact is a good place to start! There's plenty of good advice on this forum! Good luck!
Author kirstyleanne231192 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 But i feel like that will push him away because he keeps texting me. Hes told me to keep in contact. I was already using NC though..
pink24 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Hey Kirstyleeanne .. Hmmm I would be extremely cautious; Friends while he sorts his head out? So he doesnt want you moving on without him. I'm afraid he finished it therefore ending a relationship means moving on. I am a firm believer that friends can progress to lovers but lovers can never progress to friends. Once you guys have been intitmate and feelings grow beyond a friendship then it will be extremely hard to simply just 'be friends'. I would be extremley cautious if I was you but there is lots of forums and threads on here that will help with your thought process. Take care
Author kirstyleanne231192 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Heyy, i know that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I feel like him getting jealous a lot by things shows that he sees me as more than a friend. He isnt treating me like a friend either with how he kept kissing me on my forehead, its different to how he treats his other girl friends. When he was being cuddly/kissy i think that we have too much attraction/chemistry between us to be able to only be friends and he can't ever be around me without acting like that and i think he will realise this. I said to him 'I don't see how we can be just friends after everything were good together' and thats when he said 'i'm not saying were over forever'. He keeps texting me though and i can't just ignore him but i do want to have limited contact as i feel like i want to make him wonder about me and want me but i don't know how to make him do this?
Author kirstyleanne231192 Posted July 25, 2011 Author Posted July 25, 2011 (edited) Hey again. i just have an update on my situation. Its been 3 weeks since our break up now. I have still been trying to do NC but he keeps texting still every now again. He keeps getting jealous when i go out like on friday because i had a girl mate over for some drinks he thought i was having a party and got jealous because he thought i hadnt invited him so he texted me saying 'not inviting me to your party' and he said 'you've probably got somebody to share your bed with ' he went out on saturday night and one of his mates said he was on about pulling but it could have just been guy talk messing around because yesterday after he'd been out, he text me saying 'i miss u so bloody much i cant bring myself to hurt u ever again i want to work things out so bad but if you cant forgive me then il understand :/ il always love you♥' i did text him back and i put 'i want us to fix things too and start a fresh but can we not do this by text becus u cant tell true feelings through text' i put it because you cant tell whether people mean what they say unless you can see their face can you. but everybody has told me that they doubt he would mess me around more by saying something he doesnt mean. what do i do next? Edited July 25, 2011 by kirstyleanne231192
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