lazereye88 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 So there is this one girl and we were flirting quite a bit. She basically told me in a indirect way I should ask her out. We have been flirting for a month, and all my friends told me why haven't you asked her out she has done everything to indicate to she likes you. We once had a convo abt our situation in third person and she told me that a girl knows, when a guy likes her, and she will not flirt with him unless she likes him. She also told me if a girl does not like you she would not ask you what you thought of her and if you found her attractive (which she did).These is one of the many billion signs. So last week we were all supposed to hang out, with our friends. My friends canceled in the last second so she calls and cancel's on me in the last sec, saying "I'm not coming because others are not coming".The next day she call my friend up and asked him if I like her, and he said he does not know (because he did not want to say it but for us to talk abt it). She than started saying that I have been making moves on her to hook up with her (which I did not, the only moves I made are the ones to show I like her). SO my friend started defend me and said " I don't think that he has that intentions", and he also told her that she was very overtly flirting with me, which could have lead me to belive if any. Than she talked him for an hour asking if I liked her and he did not say anything. Infact since she made me look like the bad guy first (to gain his sympathy), he told her "I don't like he likes you like that" She basically told him she did not think of me that way, and she asked my friend to hint that to me.So he told her he will tell me overtly that she is not interested in me. She told him don't do that, because I might think she is repulsed by me. SO he told her okay but I will still tell him not to take your signs seriously, she responded saying "no". So my friend asked her do you want give him mixed signals, and she said "something like that". I was not aware of the phone call, but I was pissed of the way she canceled on me. She asked me if was mad at her, and I told her she was rude and told her the way she canceled on me felt like a giant **** off, and she told "her ex is jealous when we hang out". I let it go and did not bring it up right away, in the mean time my friend told me about the phone call. So later I asked her if she was OK with us hangin out or no "she tells me she is not sure, but it is better as friends because we work" and I told her "I don't bring emotions in the work place". But she made it look like I was making the moves but I said nothing. After we cleared up what were, she started telling me that, "she is not attracted to darker skin guys, but you are(with a primal sexaul look on her face) hot. She starts telling me I am way better in looks and personality than her ex. She starts telling if we have baby the baby will have a gr8 tan because of our skin tones and what not. She starts flirting with again. WE meet up few day later and she started giving me hand massages and flirting with me.When I stop flirting with her she thinks I am mad at her, and keeps txting me like WTF?
thatone Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 she is frustrated with your lack of backbone, and honestly i can't blame her it must be like pulling teeth from her standpoint. all of these he said/she said conversations between your friends i honestly didn't read because if it gets to that point you've tried your best to blow it already so what was said doesn't matter. a) get over your ridiculous insecurity and your pack of tag along friends to back you up. dating isn't "hanging out" with a dozen other people it's two people. just like it says in the beer commercial, perhaps the one time in history that a beer commercial is accurate, "it doesn't take more than one person to talk to a woman." b) due to your many shortcomings, you're starting out behind the 8 ball. you've wasted so much time and let her think and plot so much that she probably has a ton of preconceived notions about how and why you haven't approached her yet. and those notions won't go away until you show her otherwise. be a man, stop being a little boy hiding with his friends.
sally4sara Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 This all reads like high school. She is immature. The whole situation is immature. Who tries to get dates by checking all covert with friends of who they want to date? High school kids and immature people. Yes, immature girls tend to act this way. Its not being a bitch its just being dumb. The other thing that is dumb is thinking that just because this girl acts immature and dumb that all women act this way. So you guys are probably a suitable match.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 she is frustrated with your lack of backbone, and honestly i can't blame her it must be like pulling teeth from her standpoint. all of these he said/she said conversations between your friends i honestly didn't read because if it gets to that point you've tried your best to blow it already so what was said doesn't matter. I don't agree with this. The girl sounds like an attention whore who is playing games with the OP. The mixed signals, cancelling the date, and trying to manipulate his friend are obvious signs.
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