Neco84 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Ex and I dated for a yr and a half. Left me to reconcile with first love who she dated before me. Didn't work out with her ex who she relocated for and eventually moved back to town we lived in and currently live in. It has been about 9 months since our breakup but only 2nd month of NC.... I know I should be over her by now but she is MY first love. I have dated people before her but I do consider her the one I thought id grow old with. She started dating someone new( which she already broke up with a month into their relarionship)but still shows weird signs of.... I don't know what to call it honestly! An example of what she does is telling one of her friends to take down a profile picture of her and I cuz we ran into eachother at an event. She told her to take down the pic cuz it was "disrespectful" to her current breakup. Huh? Aren't I technically 2 ex's away from her at this point? The little contact we did have she was VERY mean! To the point where I had to remind myself that she f'd me over not the other way around! The way she has treated me after this breakup, from the outside world, you would have been 100% sure I left her and not what actually happened! I've been called all sorts of names and the whole deal. All the while crying in my pillow at night. Also, the last contact we had with eachother was pretttttttty harsh on my end! Said some pretty mean stuff to her! We ended that convo and mutually agreed to no longer have any contact. An event came up in the city we share annnnnnnnd she continued to stare at me throughout the entire event. To the point where my friends and her friends noticed and called it out. I do hear she is having problems with her current relationship and was also forced,financially, to move back to her hometown. My question is : Can a person feel so guilty after a breakup that one leaves someone for someone else for, they begin to force themselves to move on because they've made such a bad mistake? Or are they perfectly fine with their decesions and have no regrets? *** most importantly: WHY WOULD AN EX TREAT YOU SO HARSHLY WHEN THEY ARE THE ONES WHO LEFT YOU FOR SOMEONE ELSE!? And you did nothing wrong and she and everyone around you knows that. What, prey tell, is the psychology behind that????????
shayla Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 In my case, my ex wanted for people to think he was a nice guy and not the lying cheating pig he was and still is. So even now, 8 months after the break up he keeps telling people that it was all my fault, that we broke up loooong before he met his now wife, and that I was a psycho that didn't want to let him go after the break up. Every bit of that is a lie. But if you don't know me or the truth, you would think "God that crazy bitch, how could she treat this NICE GUY so badly???" Uh, right.
Fab001 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 I cannot but agree with Shayla. When one does something clearly and publicly wrong, they spend their time into creative thinking of why they did such a horrible thing. It ends up that it's someone else fault if they did what they did.
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