Devoted88 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 So, I will keep this short! I was with my boyfriend - 33 yrs old, for around 15 months, I am 22. I am mature, he is quite a kid, so age isn't the factor. We were blissfully happy and got on brilliantly, never had a fight and spent most nights together during that time. He decided out of the blue after 2 weekends away with his friends from the country where he previously lived, that he wanted to break up. I still stayed that night and the passion was the best ever, although he had broken my heart! 2 Days later we saw each other for him to answer my questions - it seems he felt claustrophobic and didn't feel the need to move forward in the relationship and was having doubts, then realized he saw me more as a friend. He has a very small group of friends where we live, whereas I have quite a few, so I believe that this could have been a factor of why he see's me as a friend - I am practically the only person he see's on a regular basis! I am realizing now that we probably spent too much time together and the spark went for him. However, he is away on business now and we are on a break, with contact - although it's day 5 and still nothing from him, I am forcing myself not to contact him!! We are due to see each other on Sunday, 13 days after the day he wanted to break up, to see if he has missed me while he has been away and whether we have any hope. We have a holiday booked to take in 2 weeks together, which needs to be sorted too! I guess my question is, knowing he is stubborn and that if I tell him I have now decided I don't want to be with him, he will probably just be happy for me and move on, how do I make him realize we have a chance and that he could get back that feeling with just a bit of excitement! I am not saying he is the one, but what we had was so good, too good to give up on that that! Who knows, if he gets over his commitment issues, he could be the one! Has anyone any advice? Knowing he is the opposite of all normal men! And the only way he mentioned I could get him back would be if he saw me with someone else and was jealous! Which by then will be too late for me! And in about 6 months when I am finally over him! :-(
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