Lemontang Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Not sure where this one should really go, so figured throw it in the general section. I've been offered a role with a client of mine, that frankly I'm really interested in taking. The issue being if I was to leave my current job it would cause a number of issues with my current clients. An ex whom I haven't spoke to in well over a year and a half would fill the role easily. She used to work at the same company and did the same role I'm doing now, so reintegration would be easier. That and since she left the company I'm with now, she's been to 4 different companies essentially doing the same role. Her only reason for leaving where I was, was it wasn't flexible enough at the time as she has a kid (and of the 4, 2 were post breakup). On a business sense, it well... makes sense. That and I know through friends she's looking to change jobs again (people keep telling me, even when I ask not to know Grrr). My current role is super flexible and I work a lot from home so it'd make things easier with her kid after school etc... I really have no interest in talking to her on a social side of things, I've moved on and despite all the crap she put me through, she in a twisted way still blames me for her own issues. But business wise she'd do well, both for my clients, the company I'm with, and her daughter. Her work ethic has always been good, I've seen this in action, and work would take her back. But her personal ethics are totally screwed hence why I've no interest in even being friends with her, despite wishing her well in life. On another note, if I accept the role. I'd no longer be involved with the company I'm at, due to the role and capacity it entails not requiring contact with them. So I wouldn't be dealing with her anyway. So I guess to sum it up, if I take the role, should I contact her to ask if she'd be interested in taking over from me?
denise_xo Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 If you have both moved on on an emotional level and are capable of being civil to each other and agreeing to the rules of the game, I don't really see a problem. But if it's going to open up old wounds etc, maybe give it a pass.
Author Lemontang Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Funny thing is I can be. When it comes to business I'm extremely professional. Though I highly doubt she can or would be and that's the issue in part. Firstly I've got nothing to hide, those at work know what she put me through, so she'd be coming back to that. On an update to this I've since decided to take the role offered to me today and on advising my boss, I was asked if I knew anyone who could take over as I'm in a location where on hiring a new person it will take over 12months for them to get up to speed. With her it would be just a few months, because she knows all the back end stuff and she knows half of my clients anyway (we currently compete, she's with a small local firm, compared to the multinational firm I'm with so competing is really one sided ). My boss also only knows of her indirectly from others I work with, but she was also the one that helped me with my relocation to the role I'm in now because of all the crap this girl put me through. In a small way I think my boss would like to ask her because it would make integration so much easier, but would want my ok first (The boss and I are good friends and she'd source elsewhere if I wasn't cool with it). I'm debating if I should contact her now because of it and obviously this would have to be done in the next few days. It would also mean breaking NC, which I've done well to hold off on for over a year.
denise_xo Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Why do you have to contact her? Can't your boss take care of it?
Author Lemontang Posted July 22, 2011 Author Posted July 22, 2011 She could. But my boss would prefer I vetted it first before moving forward. Speaking of moving forward. I did draw up a quick email to let her know of the upcoming role. However I felt best to double check with my manager before sending it. I'm glad I did too, as the the general concensus my manager got from the main management team was a resounding fat no... clearly she wasn't as good as I thought. So that's the end of that then. Phewww!
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