confussed88 Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 I just found out that my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me with his ex. He went to Thailand ( where his ex is from) for a month language course and lied to me about see his ex. I found out... and he explained that he wanted to see her and they were just friends. He just got back and i found pictures of her and him looking really close so i questioned him. i was really upset and it came out that he slept with her. I knew something was wrong when he got back. which is probely why i looked at his computer. but when it came out he was very sorry and he tried to explain. we were fightling a lot and he was very very drunk.. on to of this this girl his ex used to be a bar girl (meaning she was paid to sleep with people..) he said to me that i deserved to be with someone better. BUT i know that this is not him. he is not a cheater. i KNOW this. so we are taking things slowly to work through these issues. extra knowledge. she is engaged to some guy from the uk.... but shes said that she doesnt feel the feelings gthat she should for him. its kind of like a way out of Thailand and a way of supporting her family...' but i need advice as to what should happen now... he has said he is confussed anout his feelings towards his ex even though he knows he will not want to be back with her. any advice is welcomed i just need to know if i have done the right thing. Thnaks
StoneCold Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 he said to me that i deserved to be with someone better. BUT i know that this is not him. he is not a cheater. i KNOW this. Do you realize that you just told us a story about how your man just cheated on you?
keepsmilin74 Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 He cheated on you with a hooker, no less. Dump him and get tested for STDs. Nobody needs this trouble. Better luck next bf!
Tech_E Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Not married, no kids, he cheats with a hooker? Umm how much more do we need to know? Dump this POS.
StoneCold Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 (edited) How does the fact that shes a hooker make this any worse? If you engage in risky sexual practices you put yourself at risk of contracting an STD ....period...whether its with the "good girl" from your church group or the "professional" you called up. Edited July 19, 2011 by StoneCold
fltc Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 You'll never trust him again, can you continue the relationship knowing that? Dump him.
analystfromhell Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 It's good that he has "come clean" but did that happen voluntarily? If you hadn't looked on his computer would an AIDS test have been the first time you knew? (Sorry for being so dark). The level of compassion and understanding you've shown in the face of this seems to say that he's right- you do deserve someone better than him. It's better to find out his tendencies now than five or ten years from now. So as much as it hurts, just ask yourself if you're in the sort of marriage you imagined for yourself....
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