truthalwayshurts Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Hi everyone; Well hope someone can help me truely. I was in a relationship with my ex for 5 years and 2,5 years of it we were living together. I met her when she was 17 and i was 21 now she is 22 and im 26. In the 5 years she has dumped me 7-8 times out of blue. We never had fights etc... None of us have any alcohol problems and we do not use no drugs etc...Everytime she dumped me the reasons were; i dont love you anymore i want to be singlei dont see future together you deserve better etc... Then everytime she come back she says; i cant see my life without you i made big mistakesi really regret what i did etc... At first when she dumped me she was back within a week but past 2 times been different;Once it took 1,5 half months for her to contact me after seeing me out and about. Then she stayed 2 months with me then went off again and this time it took 4 months for us to get back together and that was the only time i initiated the contact with her all other times she was the one did the first move everytime.But when she was apart from me 4 months i have tried to talk to her 2 months before and she didnt reply to my text message at all then i tried again that time she replied and after talks we got back together.I dont know whats her problem with being with me. This time we just got back from holiday abroad and 2nd day she left me out of blue again and she says we are not right for each other, she dont love me, she might be interested in someone else, she only comes back because she was bored not for the right reasons etc... Fair enough but i doubt someone would waste their time with same person so long just cause they are bored! She is not ugly girl either so she can get other guys without any problem but why is she kept coming back to me?Please help me as i had so many girls came in and out of my life but never seen anything like this and this experience made me very miserable person and now lost all my confidence in me and dont enjoy nothing at all in the life She also came from wealthy family but she wasnt working person so i was financially helping her as well and when we lived together i was the one paying the bills also but again she didnt have to be with me as her parents support her all the way financially too when she is not with me. So i dont know Everyone says this girl got some sort of personality disorders that i can not or she can not fix but i still cant move on Thanks for taking time reading it!
BrokenFool Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 truthalwayshurts - your story sounds familiar to mine so let me give you my opinion my ex like yours would leave out of the blue , your talking about yesterday we might have had the best day ever and today because of some reason or another she would dump me my calls. texts would get ignored and i would have to be the one to make the effort to get us back together however i went through this 150 times so unless you want to end up like me you really need to sit down and have a talk with her it doesnt sound like gigs because if it was it would have to be you to do the chasing and you say she is the one who initiates the contact however it does sound like she thinks she can do better and when she gets out into the big bad world after leaving you gets scared and wants you back , one of these days that fear wont be there and she will not want to get back together i know exactly what you mean about how the dumpings take so much out of you, confidence, ego, self esteem you feel battered i know what your thinking - i can fix her , she just needs my support etc etc trust me when i say in trying to fix her you are going to get broken yourself she has self esteem issues and her personality fluctuates - one minute your enough for her then next your not , then you are again, this will drive you mental
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