pink24 Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Hi guys So my ex-fiancé finished it extremely suddenly 4weeks ago! If you read my other thread 'Heartbroken...lost' will give the details of the break up! Anyway, I accepted his decision and did not grovel or plead in anyway whatsoever! I walked away, completely and utterly broken but I walked away! So... I decided from then I will be in NC and I am Happy that I have stuck tonic however, so has he! I have not had a text, call, email...nothing! Before the split we spoke constantly throughout the day via calls & texts to now being nothing obviously dues to the split. But, I feel a huge void, a major gap in my life so will he to be feeling like that? Or will he be infact keeping NC because he is happy ... Any advice???
69ways Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 people are strange, ego strikes them like anything mine kept contact for months, we were engaged also i asked her to leave me also and she did but finds excuses to call so EGO is a really what gets them and babes if he does not call you forget him, not worth your time
BrokenFool Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 even if your memory in his mind is like a drip in a bucket at some point that bucket is going to get full and he is going to have to do something to empty it he may be scared, may be respecting your space, may not give a damn but have faith if you meant something to him he will be in touch at some point fill the void in your life with things for YOU, focus on YOU stay strong their are gonna be plenty of bumps in the road as you travel down it
Author pink24 Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 people are strange, ego strikes them like anything mine kept contact for months, we were engaged also i asked her to leave me also and she did but finds excuses to call so EGO is a really what gets them and babes if he does not call you forget him, not worth your time Hi 69ways well my ex has made NC whatsoever the last time we spoke was when I left his with all my things etc. Just over 4 weeks. I am surprised as when we split he said he wanted it to be as 'amicable as possible'. He didn't want it to get nasty between us as we had been through alot. Its not even as if we live a million miles from each other, he stays literally 5 minutes away! But yet nothing! So you think that he doesnt want to contact me because he doesnt want to dent his own ego? Yeah I know, I keep telling myself it will be his loss but my its hard taking your own advice
Author pink24 Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 even if your memory in his mind is like a drip in a bucket at some point that bucket is going to get full and he is going to have to do something to empty it he may be scared, may be respecting your space, may not give a damn but have faith if you meant something to him he will be in touch at some point fill the void in your life with things for YOU, focus on YOU stay strong their are gonna be plenty of bumps in the road as you travel down it Hi BrokenFool I love your analogy of the drip to a bucket - very logical! I hope by the time the bucket is full and he feels he wants to contact me that I will be over it and strong enough to tell him he had his chance! The void I feel is unexplainable - I actually feel like I have lost a limb. I am usually very strong minded and independant but I feel so alone and vulnerable! I have lost a tonne of weight that I really didnt need to and I am usually at the gym a lot but at the minute the last thing I want to do is lose MORE weight ugh.... if only we knew why???!!!!
bdoggle Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Hi Pink. I know your pain. Not having closure is agony, but true is the saying that what causes you pain will make you stronger and wiser. Time will provide clarity as to the real person you thought you had. It doesn't matter what he thinks or does if it does not have to do with you. His lack of communication is a form of power which he has over you. You cannot give him that by making it matter in your mind. My ex tries to torture me by making lame txt msg contacts and then not responding to my responses. It's just an attempt to keep her on my mind just in case she need something and guage how I might still be there for her...very wicked. You don't want that. N/C is best. Broken is right about focusing on you. Respect yourself and don't let anyone else define you. The real and better deal will come you way with that attitude!
Author pink24 Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Thanks bdoggle - I'll try! At the minute I am having a bad day but I suppose I will just have to take the good with the bad....
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