Geya Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Is there such a thing? I got out of a 2 years relationship 3 months ago, it was HELL, it consumed me mentally & emotionally, I felt life is over and al of that drama, thought about it day and night.. but I'm finally getting better but I almost can't believe it, it feels so good, what really helped me is that I actually have no feelings for him, I no longer look at him the same (oh and also that cute guy I met lol) however I read somewhere that if you didn't grieve properly and took your time it might haunt you later, I'm just afraid I'm moving on too quickly, is it possible or am I being paranoid that I no longer care?
thelovingkind Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Every grieving process is different but I'd say that feeling good three months after the break up of a 2 year relationship is no cause for concern. Three weeks would be a different story. But as you say, it consumes you mentally and emotionally and eventually you just get sick of it and shed the skin of sadness that's kept you down. The warning signs for me are franticness - "I must date this new person!", "I must go out and party!" - these are indications that something is awry. When you do come right, there's no sense of agitation or restlessness about it, the sensation is more of a gentle birth into a warm, new, relaxed perspective on yourself and the world.
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