Tsukahime Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Hello everyone~ I'm new to this website, but I thought it was really interesting and was eager to talk about certain things. Anyway, So here's my problem. A couple months ago I created an online dating account and got alot of hits from many many guys on there (I'm not bragging at all.) but after talking to about 20 different guys I didn't find anyone at all, until I got a message from a guy who I really thought looked and sounded genuinely nice. We got to texting on the phone, calling eachother,...we talk pretty much everyday for the entire day and it's been about 2 months since we've known each other. 2 weeks ago I told him that I liked him, and he told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship just yet and I understand that but.. I feel a little...dissapointed? He seemed so interested and always told me I was beautiful, funny, smart, and that he really really liked me. Maybe I just got the wrong message, but I was really thinking that he was into me? Were friends still and still talk everyday but I wonder if having feelings for him still is hard for him. Or if it's worth it in the end. I know he wants to get to know me better, so I dont blame him for that at all but I feel like I really messed everything up by telling him I liked him. Should I just stop talking to him? I met him in person, and I liked him even more, so it's painful when we meet up knowing that he might not be interested. But he still calls me beautiful, and texts me everyday so I'm getting mixed signals. What should I do? I just feel really confused.
Damien Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Hiya, welcome to LS ^^. I think you should keep trying a little more, it's only been 2 weeks. Did he say why he wasn't ready? Maybe he had a recent breakup? That was my excuse last time I got asked out on a date. But then again, there are a few guys that just don't want to be in a relationship at all. I don't think you messed up at all to be honest, he's still talking to you after that so it should be a good sign . P.S. Nice Avatar, Sawako from Kimi Ni Todoke right?
Casablanca Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Have you two met in person yet? Just curious, it is hard to decipher from your post
Damien Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Have you two met in person yet? Just curious, it is hard to decipher from your post Near the end of her post she's mentioned that they've met in person.
Disillusioned Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 I stopped trying and I don't regret it. It was tough at first for me to get out of it, but I ended up starting a couple of new hobbies and even a new job instead.
sm1tten Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Wait. Do I have this right? You've been talking for two months, but it's been two weeks since you told him you liked him and he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship, right? Well, what I think that means is that he is not ready for or particularly interested in a relationship with YOU. This sounds like nothing more than a friendship, and after two months you've only "met" but was it a date? I had a guy friend who did this kind of thing all the time. He wasn't ready to date the girl(s) because of either low level of interest or something similar, but he didn't want to give up the attention... so he said "I'm not ready to date" and they just kept hanging around hoping. Guess what, it never happened.
Author Tsukahime Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 Hiya, welcome to LS ^^. I think you should keep trying a little more, it's only been 2 weeks. Did he say why he wasn't ready? Maybe he had a recent breakup? That was my excuse last time I got asked out on a date. But then again, there are a few guys that just don't want to be in a relationship at all. I don't think you messed up at all to be honest, he's still talking to you after that so it should be a good sign . P.S. Nice Avatar, Sawako from Kimi Ni Todoke right? I think I will for a little while. He just said that he wanted to get his life straightened out before he was in a relationship again. I haven't asked him how recent his breakup was but apparently it was very hard for him. Thank you it makes me feel alot better. Yup it's Sawako! Thank you~
Author Tsukahime Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 Wait. Do I have this right? You've been talking for two months, but it's been two weeks since you told him you liked him and he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship, right? Well, what I think that means is that he is not ready for or particularly interested in a relationship with YOU. This sounds like nothing more than a friendship, and after two months you've only "met" but was it a date? I had a guy friend who did this kind of thing all the time. He wasn't ready to date the girl(s) because of either low level of interest or something similar, but he didn't want to give up the attention... so he said "I'm not ready to date" and they just kept hanging around hoping. Guess what, it never happened. Hm, that may also be it. I've weighed this option in my head as well, and this very well may be the reason why. He had a hard break up so that's probably a factor as well. I'd never push him into a relationship though, and I'm the only person he texts and calls everyday so that's enough for me even if he doesn't want to date ME. We mostly met up just to hang out, because he got pink eye on the day we planned our actual date haha.
Author Tsukahime Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 I stopped trying and I don't regret it. It was tough at first for me to get out of it, but I ended up starting a couple of new hobbies and even a new job instead. Well that's good for you. C: I think sometimes it's hard to just.. "give up" per say because I try not talking to him but he texts/calls me anyway. It's difficult.
Disillusioned Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Well that's good for you. C: I think sometimes it's hard to just.. "give up" per say because I try not talking to him but he texts/calls me anyway. It's difficult. Maybe you still have the hots for him but you're trying to deny it? I felt like that about a woman I met 6 years ago who seemed too perfect for me at first... then I realized she wasn't interested in me, and all of a sudden I didn't have the hots for her anymore. In fact, nowadays I wouldn't be interested in her if she drop-tackled me.
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