wilsonx Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 (edited) Ahhh so I got a business like email with a breadcrumb attached at the end =) "Hey, I do not want to keep bothering you and I fully intend to leave you alone once I receive the money owed however it's been a week since you claimed to have sent it out so I just want to make sure it's on its way. Then you won't have to hear from me ever again if you don't want. " I almost responded to it... actually I have the email typed out but did not send it PS I did mail it monday, damn usps is slow and she lives like 5 miles away Edited July 19, 2011 by wilsonx
onlyafool Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Ahhh so I got a business like email with a breadcrumb attached at the end =) "Hey, I do not want to keep bothering you and I fully intend to leave you alone once I receive the money owed however it's been a week since you claimed to have sent it out so I just want to make sure it's on its way. Then you won't have to hear from me ever again if you don't want. " I almost responded to it... actually I have the email typed out but did not send it PS I did mail it monday, damn usps is slow and she lives like 5 miles away Ahahahaha...that's precious. I got the same thing from my ex about 2 days ago... "you won't have to hear from me ever again if you don't want"...well, I don't want. Don't send a response. Let Cliff Claven take care of the final contact.
Author wilsonx Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 Funny part is I am 29 days NC, I knew the breadcrumbs and games were going to come. I thought it would be months from now. I remember reading homebrew posting about his GIGS ex's leaving breadcrumbs and how at first they were annoying but then he started finding them humorous. Spot on Sir Homebrew. I am starting to find them humorous. This is the 4th one in < month
Author wilsonx Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) You know I laughed about it last night and some today but it actually hurts a lot. A lot. I almost wanted to respond to it today and tell her how much pain she caused me. You know my friends have been super supportive and telling me to just ignore it and I know thats what I have to do because if I do talk to her, she gets her cake, the 37 year old coworker as her new thing and me as the doormat which she has used in the past and eat it to. I think Im more hurt that I was a doormat in the past and I was so in love with her, I did not realize it until it was over. Its taking a HUGE toll on me right now that I fell in love with someone that treated me like this and I could not end it even when I tried on several tries. I got played big time and I of all people should have known better. Edited July 20, 2011 by wilsonx
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Weird... I just got an email from my ex earlier... She invited me to Google+ and added me to her circle (not sure which one, G+ doesn't tell you). I haven't added her to any of my circles, nor am I going to. Email: "I'm glad you accepted my invite, I thought you might want to try it out." I felt like emailing her back saying: "You're dumber than I thought, I've had a G+ account for a few weeks now" But I just laughed a little and hit the "delete" button.
onlyafool Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 You know I laughed about it last night and some today but it actually hurts a lot. A lot. I almost wanted to respond to it today and tell her how much pain she caused me. You know my friends have been super supportive and telling me to just ignore it and I know thats what I have to do because if I do talk to her, she gets her cake, the 37 year old coworker as her new thing and me as the doormat which she has used in the past and eat it to. I think Im more hurt that I was a doormat in the past and I was so in love with her, I did not realize it until it was over. Its taking a HUGE toll on me right now that I fell in love with someone that treated me like this and I could not end it even when I tried on several tries. I got played big time and I of all people should have known better. Ahhh... the mysteries of the heart Sometimes we get duped man. It happens. Suddenly you're drawn in by a Siren, you're blinded.... and then you're toast. You're doing all the right things. It's just going to take time. Add this to your list of things to be mindful of during a relationship. That's all you can really do.
Author wilsonx Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 Suddenly you're drawn in by a Siren, you're blinded.... and then you're toast. I laughed at that thanks =) toast is my favorite word
MidnightinMadrid Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 You know I laughed about it last night and some today but it actually hurts a lot. A lot. I almost wanted to respond to it today and tell her how much pain she caused me. You know my friends have been super supportive and telling me to just ignore it and I know thats what I have to do because if I do talk to her, she gets her cake, the 37 year old coworker as her new thing and me as the doormat which she has used in the past and eat it to. I think Im more hurt that I was a doormat in the past and I was so in love with her, I did not realize it until it was over. Its taking a HUGE toll on me right now that I fell in love with someone that treated me like this and I could not end it even when I tried on several tries. I got played big time and I of all people should have known better. Be proud of yourself! Realizing what BS is going on and doing something about it is the very very first step,and you are! I finally nipped his month(s) long breadcrumbs in the bud and told him I dont appreciate it. Saying he'd call and never keeping his word. And you know what,it feels DAAAMN GOOD. Sometimes its good to let them know whats up and get it out,not putting your heart and feelings out there,just an i'm not interested in your crumbs. Telling them does feel better then just ignoring them,it does work both ways,bc I am sure there are stuff you want her to know. Its your call,do what is best for you,as long as its moving forward.
Author wilsonx Posted July 20, 2011 Author Posted July 20, 2011 I already called her out on what she did to me. A week after she broke up with me, I came to realize that she was lying and just gaslit me to make herself feel better about breaking up with me so she could go and try the thing with her coworker. Guess what did not work out? Shes now with the roommate she moved out of my apartment to. She moved out of his place but I saw him walking her dog the other day and I laughed and said "He has no clue what he's in for" I told her to her face that I cant believe this is the 2nd time you are breaking up with me because you want to go sleep with someone else. What type of person are you? She to this day can not look me in the eyes. Now she wants to leave me breadcrumbs? I have told her 3 times to stop contacting me and give me my space. I gave her her space. This is the 3rd email after I told her to stop. In the end though I am handling the breakup pretty well. My old self is coming back out. She looks like she got hit by a train. In the 3 years I have known her, I have never seen her smoke a cigarette without drinking alcohol. Now she smokes 2-3 at a time the one time I went and got coffee with her. My new roommate told me that she looks worse from the last time he saw her and he's seen her twice. You know what it kind of makes me smile internally but Im trying to move forward knowing I will be OK
lvm Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 In the end though I am handling the breakup pretty well. My old self is coming back out. She looks like she got hit by a train. In the 3 years I have known her, I have never seen her smoke a cigarette without drinking alcohol. Now she smokes 2-3 at a time the one time I went and got coffee with her. My new roommate told me that she looks worse from the last time he saw her and he's seen her twice. You know what it kind of makes me smile internally but Im trying to move forward knowing I will be OK Yeah man! This reminded me of a convo I had with my mom- took me awhile to tell my mom about my breakup... told her "We broke up; I know I will be ok, but don't think he will with how things went down". Dang, the price of guilt. Her (cheesy) response? "I'm sorry that he lost you". When the guilt hits, that's the reality.
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