DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Why is is that some days I'm fine over the break up, and the next I feel like crying, and most importantly, WHY DO I DREAM ABOUT MAKING LOVE TO MY EX?!!!! It's so bizarre! It's like I know I broke up with him, but I feel like I want him back...but for the wrong reasons....Do I really want to be back with him? I'm scared he'll call and I'll submit....I wasn't happy in the relationship (BUT I MISS THE S-E-X!!!)
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Your brain knows you miss the sex so it's giving it to you.
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 What a bummer! Gosh, I feel so pitiful. I wish I could just go out and have uncommitted sex, but I CAN'T. Woah, this is gonna be a long road!
befuddled11 Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 As I gathered from this post,and your other one, here are the details: 1. You were together for 4.5 yrs. 2. You weren't happy in the relationship, he wasn't truthful about "critical things." 3. You are the one who broke up with him, wanting to have some time apart. 4. He was upset by this, so much so that he was crying about it (at the time). 5. Despite you dumping him and wanting time apart, you told him that HE would have to be the one to call you. 6. It's been 2 months now and he's never called you. A previous email to him (since you dumped him) has still gone unanswered. 7. You dream about having sex with him. You miss sex with him. 8. You're afraid that he'll call you up out of the blue now and you'll get weak and get back with him and have sex. Hon, it's obvious he's moved on. If the phone hasn't rung for 2 months now, and he's not making contact with you, it ain't likely going to happen. You have a much better chance at being hit by lightening. That said, I don't think you have to worry too much about hm calling you up and you having a moment of weakness and ending up in the sack with him. People move on. You broke up with him and whether your reasons were justified or not, he accepted your decision to break up. I'm sure he wasn't going to sit around putting his life on hold, waiting for you to change your mind. People aren't generally wired that way. I'm sure he was hurt by the breakup, after 4.5 yrs together.....but he accepted your decision and he decided he had to move on with his life. It seems he did that. Now you need to move on with yours.
Tony T Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 "Dreaming of cock" So just how long are these dreams?
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 I'm trying to move on, but it's easier said than done. Plus, what if I do get intimate with him, then decide that I really don't want to be with him again? But like you said, that chances of that happening are very slim...I guess I'll just have to get hypnotised or something to erase him from my memory, lol =)
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 Tony, they're so real I've had multiple orgasms in my sleep!!! That's a problem!
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 I've had multiple orgasms in my sleep!!! That's a problem! I should have such problems! Wanna trade?
Tony T Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 What sort of food do you eat...what medications are you on?
reasontosigh Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Originally posted by DiorAddict Tony, they're so real I've had multiple orgasms in my sleep!!! That's a problem! If that's a problem, boy oh boy, am I in trouble!!!
reasontosigh Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Originally posted by Tony "Dreaming of cock" So just how long are these dreams? Is it just me, or is there really more than one way to answer this question?
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 I'm not on any meds, Tony! lol, and I don't do any drugs! I don't even smoke! But I do eat a lot of Italian food!!!! I'm just feel so weird thinking about sex all the time. If I space out, my mom will ask me,"What's wrong?" I can't tell her "Oh nothing, just thinking about riding my ex!" Moaning in my sleep isn't good either. Someone might call the police!
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 Moimeme, I'd rather have them awake then knocked out! lol
Tony T Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 "Is it just me, or is there really more than one way to answer this question?" YOU are the first one to pick up on this. Your IQ is above average. Good for you!!! KEYWORD: Long
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Your brain processes at night what it's worked on during the day. If you're thinking about the ex and sex with the ex much of the day, don't be surprised if that turns up during the night. The way to shut off the one is to cease the other. Find something else to occupy your mind during the day. Maybe you'll dream of Vin Diesel instead.
Tony T Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Orgasmic vegies from the natural food store. Hell, I'm eating veggies before sleep tonight. Not to demean the original poster's problem. I think you need to see a counsellor. Letting go is always hard, nevermind, difficult, but if you keep having these delicious wet dreams you may never want to give this guy up in your mind. This is a serious problem that should not be taken lightly, as we...including myself...have been doing. My sincere apologies. I personally have no advice or solution for you other than getting professional help for the aforementioned reason.
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 YOU are the first one to pick up on this. Your IQ is above average. Good for you!!! KEYWORD: Long Ohmigod! I am SHOCKED! What kind of people are you anyway? :lmao:
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 Hell, I'm eating veggies before sleep tonight. I'm buying stock in health food groceterias!
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 Thanx moimeme! That's not a bad idea at all. And to Tony, (two possible answers) 1. Disclosing information on the length of a man's "member" is totally uncool. But my ex was very "endowed". 2. I did not look at my clock during these dreams, but I can say that foreplay and all the details were included =)
moimeme Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 But my ex was very "endowed". See what happens when people ask too many questions? I don't think this is that big a deal. The breakup is recent, you REALLY enjoyed the sex, and you still miss and wish for that sex again. You're young and horny and your best fantasy is of the sex you recently had and enjoyed. Now, if it gets to the point where your daytime fantasies prevent you from working or conducting other affairs of your life properly, then it's time to worry but otherwise, this will pass soon, particularly if you stop dwelling on him. Hell, some nights I've dreamt of LoveShack! It's just a signal that you've been too immersed in something.
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 That's true, your brain just processes whatever's on your mind. I wish I could focus on my GRE study materials instead! But who wants an SAT flashback? And about the "length" comments... 1. It's totally uncool to discuss the length of a man's "member", even if he's your ex. 2. I was asleep, so I don't know how long of a process it was, but I'll tell you, there was not a detail missing!
Author DiorAddict Posted April 24, 2004 Author Posted April 24, 2004 Moimeme, you make a lot of sense =) Thanks girlie!
meanon Posted April 24, 2004 Posted April 24, 2004 YOU are the first one to pick up on this. Your IQ is above average. Good for you!!! KEYWORD: Long Lol! I got it too. Whilst I'd love to join this intellectual elite I think it's more likely we just have a filthy sense of humour
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