irc333 Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 There was this woman on an online dating site I saw, and she was 42, divorced, has children....and said in her profile she's looking for guy open to having more kids. Most women I meet, who have "been there, done that" been through the divorce, having and raising children, would desire another one, esp at that age. Considering the health risks involved?
grkBoy Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Some people are into that. I know others who want to only have kids young, or before 35. Everyone is different.
Valid Sintax Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Actually, for me, I've noticed that a fewer number of women at that age who have had kids want more children. From what's I've experienced, the women who most seem to want kids are those in their mid to late 30's who have no kids of their own. When I see a women's profile in that age range with no kids who writes that she "definitely" wants kids, I have found that she has a strong desire to bear her own children (not just have kids, which could include adoption) and most of them that I have spoken with seem to have no problem with having them through to age 45 and beyond. Almost all of them also seem to have some "friend" who had a child at 40+ and they use that as the rationale for why they can too. In my experience, health risks have been of little concern to them.
Lucky_One Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 You are forgetting that this encompasses blended families, too. She simply could be saying that she is open to a man with children of his own, and she wants a man who is open to her having children as well.
carhill Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 This also widens potentials to men of that age who are childless and want children of their line. As many women who've had kids want none further (IME), a lady who is open to the potential can mitigate somewhat perceived shortcomings of being a single mother. IOW, and I dealt with this myself at that age, I'd be more likely to date a single mother who wanted more kids, because I wanted children of my own line, as opposed to a single mother who wanted no further children. One potential.
Sugarkane Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 I think this is probably becoming more common as women also feel pressure to have a career aswell. I know I get pressured from my family. And also that people are having children later these days. If you go to the breakup section alot of people in their twenties get GIGS. So maybe older people want children as they feel the clock ticking.
green_tea Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Why do you care so much about what someone else wants?? How does it affect you?
Valid Sintax Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Why do you care so much about what someone else wants?? How does it affect you? Umm...If they are on a dating site, like irc333 said, and you would consider dating them, then it could potentially affect you.
Sugarkane Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Also as more and more celebrities have children in their 40s, the more accepted it becomes. People look at them and think if its so easy to get pregnant at that age, than its should be easy for everyone else to get pregnant at that age too.
green_tea Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Umm...If they are on a dating site, like irc333 said, and you would consider dating them, then it could potentially affect you. But they are being open about wanting children. You are free to pass on them if you don't feel the same way. I don't see what the issue is, except the OP having something against 40 year old women wanting to have children.
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