Crisis Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I was just here at my apartment making some food when I get a knock at my door. It's my neighbor from across the way who I have only chatted with a couple of times. He said he was walking from the apartment office in front of where my ex lives and saw her and this "GUY" get out of her car together and he kinda yelled "Oh so it's like that!" Said she just turned and walked inside with this guy who was snickering. It's that same guy I saw, the guys she's with now. He had a "talk" with me. Just when I think I'm ok something like this throws me off balance. He didn't know that she had broken up with me, which is why he freaked out. I wish he wouldn't have said anything, cause now I feel like crap, like she's thinking "Oh well Cris is over there telling everyone about us", or she just doesn't care. I don't know. I know I shouldn't care but I just got off balance a bit. I know you'll will be like "dude forget what she thinks and keep moving forward." I'm doing fine I know, and I just don't want any more reason to make things worse. I just had to tell you guys, keep you'll up to date, and let you'll know. Any opinions or words of counsel?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I know it hurts but this could be the turning point for your healing process. Knowing that she is with another guy may be what you needed to hear in order to fully move on. Your neighbor seems decent enough to tell you this, considering he didn't know you broke up. I would kindly thank him and let him know that you don't want to hear anything about what your ex is doing. Personally, I would also build on this potential friendship you have with your neighbor. It's not often you will find someone who will call someone out on something they did to a stranger or acquaintance.
Author Crisis Posted July 19, 2011 Author Posted July 19, 2011 This is true and I agree with you about my neighbor but I will when she moves. See going to where he is located puts me really close to where she is and I don't want to put myself in that position. I think he's cool, and older black guy like 63 I think. I think it's funny that he did that, and it just makes it seem to her that much worse maybe. Not only is everybody she knows saying stuff but people who don't know us that well are saying "What the He!!?" I mean maybe it'll sink in or something, but as long as that guy is there it probably won't. I already knew that they were together, just been trying to avoid the subject, but it hurts when it's thrown back in my face like that. Just reminds me that the person I love who said she would never want to hurt me, broke her promise and choked on her words. I hate the world we live in, everyone seems so selfish. Everyone seems to be breaking up, I mean J-lo and Mark Anthony just did too lol!!
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 something that helped me in the situation or there being another guy in my ex's life is I always just assumed the worst possible scenario. Yes I'll admit that it hurt like H3LL but I was more than prepared when the truth finally emerged. I'll also admit that it still hurt when I figured out the truth but it was a bearable pain and it didn't last very long at all. It does seem like everyone is breaking up lately... feels like there's posts on FB every week about one of my friends going from "in a relationship" to "single". I feel for those unfortunate ones but I also envy the very few that have gotten into a relationship over the summer. And reading about what your neighbor did made my day...
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