marny Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I'll keep this brief: My boyfriend (of seven months) maintains some contact with his ex (of three years) . I also see my ex sometimes but I have no feelings whatsoever for him. The question is - is my boyfriend really over his ex? We started our relationship just a week after he broke up but he said that emotionally he was out of the relationship with her for six months before they split up. - he doesn't initiate contact but always replies to her texts and emails though usually not straight away - his friends always ask about her when we are out and he looks sad and awkward when they do - he used to talk about her a bit when I asked now when I ask questions like what did she look like etc he says he doesn't want to talk about it - he seems distant and aggitated with me sometimes - he has started to become a real grump sometimes - he used to always want to meet me for lunch and meet up after work but now he is spending more time in the gym or with friends (male friends) - I told him I love him, he said he could only say those words back if he meant them (so he doesn't) - his ex and he dated for months before they became a couple. We had sex the first night and things were very full on from the start. One of his friends slept with a girl on the first night and he said what a slut she was!!!! Am I missing something here? Am I just being paranoid? I can't be bothered being another rebound (this would be my third and they all ended badly with me taking months to get bak to 'me'). Do I just attract guys on the rebound?
RickyTaylor Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 One thing i know about guys and you should check it, because will be a good proof of some relationship with other girl, is that a guy would be more happy and with good mood if recently they are talking and dating a girl even if he has or not a girlfriend. So if you noticed that he is more happy recently you should distrust.
Author marny Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 One thing i know about guys and you should check it, because will be a good proof of some relationship with other girl, is that a guy would be more happy and with good mood if recently they are talking and dating a girl even if he has or not a girlfriend. So if you noticed that he is more happy recently you should distrust. Thanks Ricky but I'm not sure I understand what you mean. Do you mean that because I've noticed he ISN'T as happy then he IS into me? I don't get it!!
RickyTaylor Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 no no ... the thing that is.. if his happy for no reason you know, you should distrust.. in other view if he isn't happy and his like boring with you its because his not into you... when i like a girl i'm very happy and excited to be with her and listen her very carefully blablabla.. all good things. When i'm bored with an girl i avoid her and try to do almost nothing with her
Author marny Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 no no ... the thing that is.. if his happy for no reason you know, you should distrust.. in other view if he isn't happy and his like boring with you its because his not into you... when i like a girl i'm very happy and excited to be with her and listen her very carefully blablabla.. all good things. When i'm bored with an girl i avoid her and try to do almost nothing with her Well that makes sense. He is happy with me but he is also showing another side but that could be because he feels comfortable enough to be himself with me now. I just feel unsure maybe its my womens intuition!
Nexus One Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 no no ... the thing that is.. if his happy for no reason you know, you should distrust.. While I see the rationale behind why you say/think that, you can't just apply that. I sometimes act more happy than regularly for seemingly no apparent reason at all, reasons I could have could be as casual as a good night of sleep. So I don't think you could pin someone's motives down on that. What I think is worrying though is that he hasn't told you he loves you after even seven months. What's also weird is that he still has contact with his ex, in my opinion that's not very respectful towards you and his current relationship. Tough one Marny.
Author marny Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 What I think is worrying though is that he hasn't told you he loves you after even seven months. What's also weird is that he still has contact with his ex, in my opinion that's not very respectful towards you and his current relationship. Tough one Marny. Hi and thanks My friends think it strange that I love him, they say it's too soon. When he stopped talking about his ex I found an old photo of her in his room whilst he was in the bathroom. And she looked so completely different to me. So I think that's why I am feeling a little left out and insecure. I've read lots of posts over the last two days on this site about exes and I get the message that he shouldn't still be in contact with her this far into a new relationship. He has stopped contacting her AS MUCH but I feel she is still 'there' somewhere in his mind/heart. I want him to forget her, to love me. I know he likes me a lot as he has stayed with me for a long time now. It can't be a rebound after seven months. We're actually in a serious relationship now.
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