rafallus Posted July 19, 2011 Posted July 19, 2011 Don't be so quick to judge. Classy means how much respect she has for herself, treats other people and how she carries herself. It has nothing to do with what she does between the sheet. Yep. Some guys think a woman is a slut, just because she likes sex. That's pretty idiotic, unless she's completely indiscriminate in partner choice (but such ones are rare, I know ONE woman in my immediate vicinty, who slept with bums)
sleepykitten Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 I think you sound like a decent guy you werent really sure what she wanted and didnt want to fk it up by just having sex and nothing else. Be aware though she may have just wanted sex, or something phsical and not be interested in a relationship, ie it was convinient, she was in your bed, good looking girl, probably wondering why you werent all over, her ego was thinking..er hello, are you going to try it on. The boob thing was most definatly on purpose. She wanted some validation. The question is do you want to see her again if there was no spark, no chemistry etc?
Author ptp Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) thanks for the advice everybody. I forgot to mention that while me and her don't know each other for that long (~1m), she knows a lot of the same people I know and thus can find out about my reputation from them. Also, before our 1st date, her and I hung out 2-3 times at parties but always as a group. For instance 1 time we are at a house party and everybody was pretty drunk. One of my friends, Amy stat down in my lap and then when Amy got up immediately this girl sat in my lap and we talked a little bit. Anyway, this was the 1st time I hung out with her in a 1 on 1/date type setting. I saw her briefly this week and just told her that I really enjoyed our date. Then I called to ask her out but, left a message on her voice mail. Lets see if she returns my call. I don't know why there was little chemistry between us? Chemistry has a lot do with physical attraction, maybe she doesn't find me attractive? Maybe she thinks I am too young/immature for her? Edited July 21, 2011 by ptp
zengirl Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 thanks for the advice everybody. I forgot to mention that while me and her don't know each other for that long (~1m), she knows a lot of the same people I know and thus can find out about my reputation from them. Also, before our 1st date, her and I hung out 2-3 times at parties but always as a group. For instance 1 time we are at a house party and everybody was pretty drunk. One of my friends, Amy stat down in my lap and then when Amy got up immediately this girl sat in my lap and we talked a little bit. Anyway, this was the 1st time I hung out with her in a 1 on 1/date type setting. I saw her briefly this week and just told her that I really enjoyed our date. Then I called to ask her out but, left a message on her voice mail. Lets see if she returns my call. I don't know why there was little chemistry between us? Chemistry has a lot do with physical attraction, maybe she doesn't find me attractive? Maybe she thinks I am too young/immature for her? If she put your hand on her boob and said "Entertain me" late at night in your bed, she finds you attractive. That's silly. She may not see you as relationship material or she may just be okay with moving faster because you are already in her social circle and not just some Random Guy, I don't know. But she definitely finds you attractive. She may think you're a total weirdo now though.
Author ptp Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 If she put your hand on her boob and said "Entertain me" late at night in your bed, she finds you attractive. That's silly. She may not see you as relationship material or she may just be okay with moving faster because you are already in her social circle and not just some Random Guy, I don't know. But she definitely finds you attractive. She may think you're a total weirdo now though. Do you think she thinks I am weirdo? That is a little disconcerting. I usually have the rep of the nice/safe guy not the weird creepy guy. She called me back and was wondering why I hadn't called earlier. I told her I was waiting for the right time. I then asked her if she wanted to hangout this weekend. She said she had already made plans (because I didn't call) but, was free Saturday night. I told her I have a basketball game with work friends Saturday night but, would love to take her out for a late dinner. She then said that she wanted to come watch me play basketball and afterwards we could get carry out and rent a movie to watch at my place. So that is the story so far...
zengirl Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Do you think she thinks I am weirdo? That is a little disconcerting. I usually have the rep of the nice/safe guy not the weird creepy guy. She called me back and was wondering why I hadn't called earlier. I told her I was waiting for the right time. I then asked her if she wanted to hangout this weekend. She said she had already made plans (because I didn't call) but, was free Saturday night. I told her I have a basketball game with work friends Saturday night but, would love to take her out for a late dinner. She then said that she wanted to come watch me play basketball and afterwards we could get carry out and rent a movie to watch at my place. So that is the story so far... Sounds like you have another chance. I thought she may have thought you were a weirdo because you were so oblivious, but it sounds like everything is fine. Just don't be so down on yourself. If she puts your hand on her boob, assume she did it on purpose next time!
Author ptp Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 (edited) Sounds like you have another chance. I thought she may have thought you were a weirdo because you were so oblivious, but it sounds like everything is fine. Just don't be so down on yourself. If she puts your hand on her boob, assume she did it on purpose next time! TY zengirl and everybody else especially Madi in evergreen you guys/gals have really helped me out. To be 100% honest, on the 1st date when she was in my bed, part of the reason I wasn't too aggressive was because I was confused by her signals. But another part was I was scared and worried. This thread might give you a little more insight into why: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t287598/ I am still scared and don't know what to say or do with this girl. I feel like I need to spend more time with her before we get physical. Edited July 21, 2011 by ptp
RovingReporter Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 so she sleeps over and initiates physical contact and youre not sure if she's interested. not sure if serious...
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