valente26 Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 my ex gf of 4 years im 26 shes 21 broke up with me 6 weeks ago been in no contact since the 5th june last friday she phoned me twice and came to talk to me but i ignored her. even though i still love her i really wanted to speak but i cant go through this hurt again and she only spoke to me as she saw me kissing someone else. she came into my work last monday with a guy and told 1 of my colleagues not to say she was in there. i have no idea what she is playing at. she changed her number blocked me on facebook. why 5 weeks later does she ring me? why did she keep my number? why change hers if she was going to give me her new number? should i stick to no contact or message her?
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Stick to NC, it's sole purpose is to help you heal... just ignore her. Her seeing you kissing another girl could have triggered something in her mind and really let her know that "oh my god, he's not wrapped around my finger" kind of feeling. As for her changing her number it might not have been that she doesn't want you calling or anything, it may have been a reason that isn't about you at all.
wilsonx Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 even though i still love her i really wanted to speak but i cant go through this hurt again Good for you, this is all that needs to be said and it really needs to be said about most relationships, especially when one partner leaves a partner for another person. The typical "I need space" "Its not you its me" or any other played out line.
Sugarkane Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Stick to NC, so what if she saw you kissing someone else? She's the dumper what did she expect?
Sebstian Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 It's totally predictable that she reacts that way. She's used to owning you and had all the power when she dumped you. Now she realize that she don't and try to reclaim ownership/power. If you let her in again, my guess is that she will feed you a bit more than bread crumbs, have you dump your new girl and then when she has you by the balls will she dump you again. Happened to me when I was that age... Should never have let her in again, it took me close to a year to get over!
Author valente26 Posted July 18, 2011 Author Posted July 18, 2011 thanks guys i really feel as though im slowly getting better and realising she wasnt the girl for me. has anyone else been through something similar to this? it really helps me to get an outside opinion. thanks again
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