kittygatita05 Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I was with this guy for 3 years and when I became pregnant he decided he didnt wanna be with me anymore but didnt tell me. He moved and cheated on me with the first girl that came along and later told me it was worth it cause she was hot. I had so much stress when I was pregnant cause of him but still wanted him in my babys life. He asked me for a DNA test and I did it and so now he is in my babys life. Even tho we broke up I have never had the self control to not sleep with him. And since i still loved him I flew to Bahrain once to see him with my 4 month old baby. Still he always treats me like crap for example I asked him since he keeps saying that its the distance that ruins us then while I was in Bahrain to put on FB that we were in a relationship, I later found out he didnt wanna do it cause he was talking to another girl. When he came back to the states he came to see his son for about 3 days. He has 30 days of vacation but he only came to see his son for 3 days. Who does that? Then IO found out he wanted to go spend time with his new GF. Well all this time everytime we see each other we always are fine, we talk on the phone a lot and not only stuff concerning my baby but about our days or w/e. And when we are together we always have sex of course. It just sucks cause I just dont know what he wants. He never wants to talk about how he feel so he wont even tell me, "hey in my eyes ur not worth it, ur just good for sex". And the only times we argue now is when I ask him, how he feels. I just dont know, ppl tell me one day he will realize what he had but I dont know if I should wait but it is also soooo hard to move on when I have to see him and talk to him cause of the baby. Besides every guy tends to tell me that they wont date me cause of my kid and i havent been asked out or anything by anyone. It just makes me think that Im not worth the time to anyone. I see other girls that move on and find new guys who take them with kids and all but not me. Im just so tired and kinda wish I had just stopped talking to him when I was pregnant and that I had never gotten the DNA test and just be over it by now. But whats done is done. It just hurts.
KathyM Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Wow, you need to stop letting this guy use you like this. You need to have higher standards and expectations. Develop your own life and interests and meet others in the activities you are involved in. Eventually, you will meet someone that is worthy of you if you become someone that values yourself.
madjac74 Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 He sounds like a real classy guy. That was sarcasm of course. First of all, stop having sex with him. If he gets what he wants all the time, why would he change? Secondly, when he comes to spend time with your child...leave. He is the father, he should be able to handle his child on his own. It might help him grow up a bit. If you keep letting this guy treat you like he does then what do you think your son is going to learn? And guys will date a woman with kids. You just have to find mature guys and possibly ones who have children themselves who will understand what you go through. However they dont generally like it when you still have a thing for your ex...just fyi.
Lucky_One Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 You don't have to see him or talk to him because you have a child together. You are talking to him all the time because YOU want to, not because you are discussing your child breaking curfew or having a bad cough. The guy ditched you and moved to Bahrain of all places. He is sleeping with an international entourage of women, and you are just one of them. You are confused because you don't know what he wants? I know what he wants, and I have never met him. He wants to live a free and easy lifestyle, screw whoever he wants, talk to whoever he wants, and live wherever he wants. You don't figure into his life or his plans at all. He likes the easy sex, and probably is happiest to just lay there on his back while you give him oral or do all the work in bed. Time to grow up and act like a grown woman, so that your son has at least one strong role model in his life. Cut this guy out of your life, and learn to accept that he is not going to be a partner to you in raising your child.
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