My girlfriend broke it off because she is moving away for school

[ecoy834]

About 3 weeks ago my girlfriend told me that she was going to end our 2 year relationship. I was in utter shock over this because we had such a great 2 year run. Here's the break down of everything. She's about 24 years old and she had dropped out of school for a couple of years and went to community college. During her time in community college she did really well and got into a very prestigious university in Florida. We made plans to move down there together with her going down first then myself a couple months after. I had many reservations about going down to south florida because it was never a place i really thought about moving to, but for her I would have. One of the reasons she felt that we should break is because she didn't want me to just stop my life and move down there for her. She felt that it was not my journey to go down there. She has also been in long term relationships since the age of 16 and never really got a chance to be care free in terms of thinking about another person feelings. She said that she is gonna take the next 2 years to really work on herself because she feels like she did not heal properly from her first relationship which totally messed her up. She hasn't dealt with her issues. She told me that she loves me more then she has ever loved anyone in her life and that she is taking a huge risk breaking things off with me because we might never be with each other again. She also wants me to find my path. I think I lost myself in this situation. I think i started living through her in a sense and forgot about being proactive in mine. She said she wants me to find my way and that maybe sometime in the future our paths my cross and it may be the right timing for us. I guess the thing I take from this is that to break ups there are always exceptions to the rules of breaking up. I have absolute trust in her that she ended our relationship because she felt it was the right thing to do for the both of us. That we need to find ourselves first before we find each other. I started to question the reasons we broke up and I dont want to do this because I don't want to destroy my feelings towards her. And I don't want to destroy the fact that we had 2 great years. Is it possible for us to meet down the road??

[ecoy834]

I forgot to mention I'm 26 and graduated from college and have a fulltime job. And i was gonna leave that job to move.

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

Yes it's possible for you to meet up in the future, But highly unlikely.

 

 

Your ex sounds a lot like mine in the line of excuses that you received, only difference is my ex didn't move nor did I... And I received a lot of other excuses as well. Your best bet is to go NC with her and heal. Don't expect her to come back and don't expect to meet again in the future. Also, and this is going to hurt, don't think she's going to remain single for 2 years like she says. my ex told me she just wanted to be single for a while and didn't want anyone else. I was a fool to believe that, she's with my ex-best friend now (got with him right after we got out of college, so about 6 weeks after the break up).

[KathyM]

About 3 weeks ago my girlfriend told me that she was going to end our 2 year relationship. I was in utter shock over this because we had such a great 2 year run. Here's the break down of everything. She's about 24 years old and she had dropped out of school for a couple of years and went to community college. During her time in community college she did really well and got into a very prestigious university in Florida. We made plans to move down there together with her going down first then myself a couple months after. I had many reservations about going down to south florida because it was never a place i really thought about moving to, but for her I would have. One of the reasons she felt that we should break is because she didn't want me to just stop my life and move down there for her. She felt that it was not my journey to go down there. She has also been in long term relationships since the age of 16 and never really got a chance to be care free in terms of thinking about another person feelings. She said that she is gonna take the next 2 years to really work on herself because she feels like she did not heal properly from her first relationship which totally messed her up. She hasn't dealt with her issues. She told me that she loves me more then she has ever loved anyone in her life and that she is taking a huge risk breaking things off with me because we might never be with each other again. She also wants me to find my path. I think I lost myself in this situation. I think i started living through her in a sense and forgot about being proactive in mine. She said she wants me to find my way and that maybe sometime in the future our paths my cross and it may be the right timing for us. I guess the thing I take from this is that to break ups there are always exceptions to the rules of breaking up. I have absolute trust in her that she ended our relationship because she felt it was the right thing to do for the both of us. That we need to find ourselves first before we find each other. I started to question the reasons we broke up and I dont want to do this because I don't want to destroy my feelings towards her. And I don't want to destroy the fact that we had 2 great years. Is it possible for us to meet down the road??

Of course, it's possible. Just keep in contact by Email and phone, and you may end up together eventually. But in the meantime, don't put your life on hold hoping someday to get back together with her. Date other girls and keep your options open.