murrpanda Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I recently went out on a date with a really nice guy I met up with him after work (we actually met on Match.com) and went out for drinks. We hit it off amazingly. In fact, so well our date lasted 4 1/2 hours... actually more than that. I had a train to catch in order to get home, but I missed it. I had a couple of options... sit at the train station, sleep at a friend’s place (but it was late and I didn't want to bother them), or sleep at my dates place. He told me I could sleep over. He would sleep on the couch and he wasn't expecting anything. I agreed. We got to his place and he kissed me. We made out but I made a point to tell him nothing further was going to happen. He completely understood and was very respectful. When he came time for bed he really did plan on sleeping on the couch, but I told him I had no problem sleeping in the same bed with him. We didn't do anything in bed. Just cuddled and made out. In the morning he was just as respectful as the night before. He kept telling me things like how he was already excited to see me next, how he thought I was so attractive, how much he loved kissing me, etc. I thought maybe it had been alcohol talking, but he continued saying these things the next morning. We cuddled till practically 11:30 AM and then I told him I should probably get going. He told me he could lie in bed with me all day. He made me tea in the morning and we chatted a bit and then I was on my way (with a goodbye kiss). I thanked him and told him I had a very nice time and he agreed. We texted a bit after that but it was all very short. It had been about 4 days and he hadn't asked me out again even though he had said multiple times he couldn't wait to see me again. I figured I would suggest we go out again. I shot him a text and he suggested dinner and a movie and asked when I would like to get together. I told him I was out of town until early Saturday and that perhaps Saturday night would be a good time. He agreed. I didn't text him for 5 days while I was out of town, and he never texted me. I thought that was odd. I didn't want to appear clingy, that's why I didn't text him. On Saturday (yesterday) around noon I texted him and asked if he would still like to get together that night. He never replied. I was extremely disappointed. I sent him one more text after that, to which there was also no response to. It's Sunday now and I still haven't heard from him. I guess what I'm wondering is what is going on? We had an amazing time together and we hit it off so well. We had so much in common and so much to talk about that I find it hard to believe it was something I did that would turn him off. He acted the exact same way in the morning after I slept over as he did the night before, so I just don't get it. Perhaps I'm putting too much thought in it? I had told him I would drive to meet up with him instead of the train so that I wouldn’t miss it. He made a joke telling me he liked when I missed trains. Maybe he wants to go out with me during the week after work so that I happen to miss my train again and spend the night? I don’t get it. What is with men ignoring women? I would totally get it if he didn’t want to see me again, but I feel like the least he could do was either a. tell me he’s not interested or b. give me some sort of excuse, whether it’s a lie or not. It takes 10 seconds to write a text message and hit send. Right? Someone please give me some insight. I’m very disappointed as I really thought this would maybe go somewhere.
OrangeSnack Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 if he really liked you he would call you or text you. He could have other problems such as real life emergencies and/or work. Give it a little time and see if you hear back. Don't over think it. If you really want, just give him a quick buzz and see what he says. By the way we men are definitely NOT the weird ones
Shaun-Dro Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I recently went out on a date with a really nice guy I met up with him after work (we actually met on Match.com) and went out for drinks. We hit it off amazingly. In fact, so well our date lasted 4 1/2 hours... actually more than that. I had a train to catch in order to get home, but I missed it. I had a couple of options... sit at the train station, sleep at a friend’s place (but it was late and I didn't want to bother them), or sleep at my dates place. He told me I could sleep over. He would sleep on the couch and he wasn't expecting anything. I agreed. We got to his place and he kissed me. We made out but I made a point to tell him nothing further was going to happen. He completely understood and was very respectful. When he came time for bed he really did plan on sleeping on the couch, but I told him I had no problem sleeping in the same bed with him. We didn't do anything in bed. Just cuddled and made out. In the morning he was just as respectful as the night before. He kept telling me things like how he was already excited to see me next, how he thought I was so attractive, how much he loved kissing me, etc. I thought maybe it had been alcohol talking, but he continued saying these things the next morning. We cuddled till practically 11:30 AM and then I told him I should probably get going. He told me he could lie in bed with me all day. He made me tea in the morning and we chatted a bit and then I was on my way (with a goodbye kiss). I thanked him and told him I had a very nice time and he agreed. We texted a bit after that but it was all very short. It had been about 4 days and he hadn't asked me out again even though he had said multiple times he couldn't wait to see me again. I figured I would suggest we go out again. I shot him a text and he suggested dinner and a movie and asked when I would like to get together. I told him I was out of town until early Saturday and that perhaps Saturday night would be a good time. He agreed. I didn't text him for 5 days while I was out of town, and he never texted me. I thought that was odd. I didn't want to appear clingy, that's why I didn't text him. On Saturday (yesterday) around noon I texted him and asked if he would still like to get together that night. He never replied. I was extremely disappointed. I sent him one more text after that, to which there was also no response to. It's Sunday now and I still haven't heard from him. I guess what I'm wondering is what is going on? We had an amazing time together and we hit it off so well. We had so much in common and so much to talk about that I find it hard to believe it was something I did that would turn him off. He acted the exact same way in the morning after I slept over as he did the night before, so I just don't get it. Perhaps I'm putting too much thought in it? I had told him I would drive to meet up with him instead of the train so that I wouldn’t miss it. He made a joke telling me he liked when I missed trains. Maybe he wants to go out with me during the week after work so that I happen to miss my train again and spend the night? I don’t get it. What is with men ignoring women? I would totally get it if he didn’t want to see me again, but I feel like the least he could do was either a. tell me he’s not interested or b. give me some sort of excuse, whether it’s a lie or not. It takes 10 seconds to write a text message and hit send. Right? Someone please give me some insight. I’m very disappointed as I really thought this would maybe go somewhere. Don't categorize all men based on your lackluster aftermath.
sm1tten Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 a) he met someone else while you were gone or otherwise lost interest OR b) he didn't think you were interested because you didn't text him for 5 days OR EVEN Either way, it's probably a done deal.
Casablanca Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I've had a similar experience with a woman, and was shocked that she just started to ignore me....but ive also had dates that I thought went awful, where the girl kept contacting me afterwards...people are odd
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 This reminds me of the online journal of a woman who belongs to at least five dating sites, and who has dates with different guys at least 5 or 6 times a week. Between working, all that dating, and chronicling those dates, it would become inconvenient for her to actually take to one of those candidates. Maybe, to him, Match.com is like a trip to the batting cage. You, in this scenario, were bunted down the 3rd base line ("he didn't strike out")... and he didn't have time to do anything but to ready for the next, independent pitch.
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