Mnesic Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I was with her for 1 year and 8 months and I had dumped her because I thought she was cheating on me with this guy friend of her's and a few days after we broke up they got together, and 4 days of dating officially I found out that she was sleeping with him and exchanging, 'I love yous'. I went hardcore NC after I found out about that, In 3 days I will of been broken up for 1 month, and I've been NC for about 3 weeks.. During the time I was NC my ex contacted me 5 times. I found out that she had boyfriend problems a few days after sleeping with him and that was one of the reasons why she had called me. ( I found out on her blog an hour before she called me) and the rest of the contacts were so transparent and she just text-ed me random **** so I could speak to her.. The last time she contacted me was over a week ago and had text-ed me ," I found your Ipod LOOOOOL." Exactly like that.. I had lost my Ipod somewhere in her room. I guess that was her last attempt to contact me. Yesterday I E-stalked her for the first time in 2 weeks and It brought back hurtful feelings, she had posted a new picture on facebook and on her blog I didn't find anything but happy stuff. Yesterday I also contacted her best friend for some random crap and ended up telling him not to tell my ex. Right now I don't know what to do, I feel like I shouldn't of disappeared off the face of the earth to my ex and just kept low cold NC.. and then maybe she would try to reconcile. I don't know why I would want to reconcile with her but I just do despite everything that she did with this new guy. I want to know if she really loves this new guy so quickly, and if they are going to last because I'm still pinning over her
sleepykitten Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Dont contact her!!!!! If she wants you, if she is sorry she will do all she can to make it up to you. This girl was saying i love you to another guy days after you 2 broke up!!! Stay nc you will be kicking yourself if you dont. Good luck.
marqueemoon4 Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 If you have to make a thread to give people a heads up you're going to do this, you prob shouldn't, eh? Oh yes, the ball is in your exes court.. so you have a couple of choices: not care. take the pain.
geegirl Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Yeah, go on. Go and break NC. Let her know that eventhough she cheated on you and betrayed you, you're coming back crawling. She's going to think she's a bag of chips and all that. And trust me, if you get back with this sort, she will most likely do it to you again. You know why? Because you just taught her that she can treat you like crap and you'll still want her back. So, yes, break NC. You'll be doing her a huge favor. My ex cheated on me with several women. I found out after we broke up. Do I still have feelings for him? Yes. Do I miss him sometimes? Yes. Will I go back to that? No. You can feel the way you feel but feel it and let it pass. Having feelings for her is not justification to go back to an unhealthy situation and partner.
Chi townD Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 OKay, you dumped her because you THOUGHT she was cheating on you. Here's the rub, she WAS cheating on you. If not physical at first, then she was emotionally. You broke up with her then she immediately gets with the guy you suspected. Then after four dates she starts sleeping with this guy and exchanging "I love you's". Writing is on the wall, she was investing into this guy WHILE she was in a relationship with you. Hence, she WAS cheating on you. Stay NC and move on. You need to de-friend her from facebook and stop following her blog. Don't respond to texts, phone calls and e-mails. You are never going to heal from this until you start phasing her out of your life.
HalfStepDown Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 This is a No Brainer... DO NOT CONTACT DO NOT CONTACT DO NOT CONTACT Don't do it! You're here on this forum for a reason. Read and heed the opinions and advice. We've been there.
CaliBabe Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 If she already slept with someone so soon after you broke up would you really want her back anyway? I think you are doing the right thing. Don't make contact with you easy. She should value any time you give her.
wilsonx Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I was with her for 1 year and 8 months and I had dumped her because I thought she was cheating on me with this guy friend of her's and a few days after we broke up they got together, and 4 days of dating officially I found out that she was sleeping with him and exchanging, 'I love yous'. I went hardcore NC after I found out about that, In 3 days I will of been broken up for 1 month, and I've been NC for about 3 weeks.. During the time I was NC my ex contacted me 5 times. I found out that she had boyfriend problems a few days after sleeping with him and that was one of the reasons why she had called me. ( I found out on her blog an hour before she called me) and the rest of the contacts were so transparent and she just text-ed me random **** so I could speak to her.. The last time she contacted me was over a week ago and had text-ed me ," I found your Ipod LOOOOOL." Exactly like that.. I had lost my Ipod somewhere in her room. I guess that was her last attempt to contact me. Yesterday I E-stalked her for the first time in 2 weeks and It brought back hurtful feelings, she had posted a new picture on facebook and on her blog I didn't find anything but happy stuff. Yesterday I also contacted her best friend for some random crap and ended up telling him not to tell my ex. Right now I don't know what to do, I feel like I shouldn't of disappeared off the face of the earth to my ex and just kept low cold NC.. and then maybe she would try to reconcile. I don't know why I would want to reconcile with her but I just do despite everything that she did with this new guy. I want to know if she really loves this new guy so quickly, and if they are going to last because I'm still pinning over her I think I remember telling you in one of your first threads that if your instinct was that shes cheating, then she is. Guess what you were right. Don't go back to her. She's a low life and you should not even be in contact with anyone associated with her. Move on bro, find someone else that will treat you right and learn from my mistakes, she will cheat on you again. This time it will be harder to catch
David Cain Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I think I remember telling you in one of your first threads that if your instinct was that shes cheating, then she is. Guess what you were right. Don't go back to her. She's a low life and you should not even be in contact with anyone associated with her. Move on bro, find someone else that will treat you right and learn from my mistakes, she will cheat on you again. This time it will be harder to catch Exactly. Contact her and she'll disrespect you even more. Even if you do get back with her she will not change, nor will she be remorseful for what she's done. She's a cheater, find a better woman. That's why she needs to remain an ex.
HalfStepDown Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 This is a No Brainer... DO NOT CONTACT DO NOT CONTACT DO NOT CONTACT Don't do it! You're here on this forum for a reason. Read and heed the opinions and advice. We've been there.
Rory12345 Posted July 20, 2011 Posted July 20, 2011 Like everyone else has stated, don't contact her! It's going to be difficult but you are going to get through this. If you go back, she'll treat you like a doormat.
HalfStepDown Posted July 21, 2011 Posted July 21, 2011 Like "Rory" says.... a doormat! I know this all to well. I was a doormat for a long time BECAUSE I kept contacting! Again, Don't do it! You will be fine in time!! We promise this!
Author Mnesic Posted July 21, 2011 Author Posted July 21, 2011 Thanks guys!!!! its been 2 days since then and I have not contacted her and I dont plan to!
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