confused1515 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 (edited) I was dating this guy for about five months. He treated me well, called, never fought all of that. Out of the blue after a long drive he told me he had time to think and that he was ending it. He told me that it was timing, he was sick of living pay check to paycheck, sleeping in, and being out of shape. He told me to call him when I was done hating him. The next day he untagged all but two of our pics together. A week after that he untagged everything, including pics that were just of him but that I posted, re-posted them as his own, and then tagged me in one underneath his own album. i wrote to him and told him that this was hurtful if it was on purpose, he wrote me back saying he was sorry I was hurting, he did not think that I would be hurt by the break up, and that it was stupid for him to do what he did, and that he was pissed that one of my friends had called him mediocre on my fb page. I should preface I have a two degrees, getting a third, a good job, very close network of family and friends. He doesn't have a degree, doesn't apply himself much to his job, and hasn't talked to his family in years. At times he would ask me if this bothered him, as to which I would reply, obviously not because I am with you. A week after that he posted sappy love lyrics on his facebook, I texted him that night because I wanted to share an achievement I recently received that he was very admit about me pursuing. He never wrote back, so I and very drunk and stupidly wrote him that apparently we couldn't be friends because he didn't even have the decency to write me back. He responded to me at six in the morning that he was sleeping and he was glad things were going well but clearly we can't be friends but he would like that to happen. Now I hear through the grape vine he might be hanging out with someone 7 years his junior. I am just confused, I have never had a break up like this...just want to be done with this whole thing...any insights as to what may have happened? Edited July 17, 2011 by confused1515
stray Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 He's a loser, and he knows he's a loser. He told you he needed to break up so he could work on not being a loser anymore, but already that's something only a loser would say or do. It's not your fault, or a byproduct of the relationship that he's a miserable useless person. Now that you guys are broken up, he's realized that. And instead of trying to de-loser himself, he's decided to just date someone younger, who won't judge him or even recognize his lack of societal value. It's classic loserism. Don't contact him ever again, get out there and meet a real man. Your ex will only get worse as long as he keeps blaming circumstances on his condition. He's got a lot of work cut out for him, and most likely - he'll never do the work. He'll just get more pathetic and keep blaming everyone or everything else. Learn from his mistake and you take control of YOUR life and work on your goals; meet someone who can do the same.
Author confused1515 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 Haha that actually brought a long needed smile to my face. I guess I just am worried that he never cared. I mean he did all the right things, was so good to me, my friends, even fixed my dads sink for him. I guess I am just having a hard time wrapping my brain around how someone can change so quickly. Which is why I am leaning towards the idea he never gave a ****.
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