LSgirl Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Yesterday at 3pm me and my bf of 7 months arranged to hang out at 5pm. I caught the 30min bus ride to his house and waited an hour. I knew he was at his friends house that day helping to fix up a jeep but i figured he drank and passed out. I was so upset that he didnt pick up my calls or text bc he passed out that i caught the bus back home. He called me at 730pm and said was sorry and just woke up. I told him not to call me anymore. If he had a real excuse like he was in an accident itd be a diff story. Passing out drunk is pathetic although he calls it a nap. I dont want to break up with him and i prob wont but at the same time admist of all this i told him to stop calling bc its not like he was serious about us. He joked saying not to play a pity party. Maybe im overreacting but i feel like even tho he shows his love but has never told me he loves me i feel like this relationship is too casual. Should i tell him that? Just this one mistake on hos part yesterday triggered a lot of feelings. We have a lot of fun together but i know how hurt he was when his ex fiancee of 8 years cheated on him. So...should i forgive him but bring up how serious os he? Hes not the emptional type so it might scare him away. I know he cares about me and it seems like love from the outside even tho no verbal expression of it, he doesnt make future plans with me like trips etc...excuse any spelling errors im making this quick on my phone. What should i do?
Yookie Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Yesterday at 3pm me and my bf of 7 months arranged to hang out at 5pm. I caught the 30min bus ride to his house and waited an hour. I knew he was at his friends house that day helping to fix up a jeep but i figured he drank and passed out. I was so upset that he didnt pick up my calls or text bc he passed out that i caught the bus back home. He called me at 730pm and said was sorry and just woke up. I told him not to call me anymore. If he had a real excuse like he was in an accident itd be a diff story. Passing out drunk is pathetic although he calls it a nap. I dont want to break up with him and i prob wont but at the same time admist of all this i told him to stop calling bc its not like he was serious about us. He joked saying not to play a pity party. Maybe im overreacting but i feel like even tho he shows his love but has never told me he loves me i feel like this relationship is too casual. Should i tell him that? Just this one mistake on hos part yesterday triggered a lot of feelings. We have a lot of fun together but i know how hurt he was when his ex fiancee of 8 years cheated on him. So...should i forgive him but bring up how serious os he? Hes not the emptional type so it might scare him away. I know he cares about me and it seems like love from the outside even tho no verbal expression of it, he doesnt make future plans with me like trips etc...excuse any spelling errors im making this quick on my phone. What should i do? This guy is a complete waste of time, literally and figuratively. Lets see he: -Makes plans then doesn't show up even though you have to ride 30mins on the bus to see him. -Doesn't call to cancel said plans nor answers your calls and texts. -Makes jokes when you are trying to have a serious conversation basically blowing off your feelings. -He drinks to the point of passing out. Can you say alcoholic? -Never gives verbal expression of love. -Never makes future plans with you. Does this sound like a guy who is in love? Sorry but I'm not seeing it. Do yourself a favor and block his calls if you can. If not just don't answer at all. Change the name on your phone to DONOTANSWER. Find a guy who will treat you with respect and really show you that he cares about you.
Author LSgirl Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 This was the first time he did this where he didnt answer cuz he passed out..still no excuse. He calls and texts when were not together, i know he doesnt love me but i cant rush something like that. Things are great overall just the future stuff i worry about. Some ppl say to give him time since he was badly hurt but i dunno what to do i dont want to break up with him.
Yookie Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 If you dont want to break up with him then there is nothing you can do except sit back and expect more of the same behavior. He's not going to change. In fact he will likely get worse as his alcoholism progresses and he realizes you are willing to be treated like a doormat and will come back for more.
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