Author lalalandman Posted July 24, 2011 Author Posted July 24, 2011 I don't agree that the "normal rules apply". I'm not that way at all. If it moves faster than normal, then maybe that's just an indication that the chemistry is hot. I did play it cool for the first week. I never even mentioned the encounter. I just tried to talk to her. But today, I lost my cool, but not to any extreme degree. But to my credit, I deserved some sort of answer. And I got what I was looking for. Better than letting myself be strung along the whole time, because I'm sure she would have allowed it. This is my exit and I'm sticking to it. I agree that I could have done things differently, but it definitely doesn't mean things would have ended up differently. Not by any means. That can't be assumed. Our chemistry was hot, it was cute and sweet. She knows it. Her loss. And he's pathetic. But, yes, cooling down, good idea.
Author lalalandman Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 (edited) I stopped talking to this girl 2 Saturdays ago. On Thursday in the middle of the night, I get this really weird text saying "Hey sorry to bother you, but I'm getting a physical tomorrow and just wanted to make sure you're clean. I just don't want any surprises." This is weird because we already had this conversation on the 1st night. Anyways I tried calling her once the next day. Then I sent a text saying "Do you need to talk or something? I don't get what you want." I made a couple light jokes about it. I said "Hey I was a virgin when I met you..." She acted surprised, even though she knew all about my history. And I said "Yea, I thought you were the one ;)" I was just trying to lighten up the situation to ease her mind. But she wasn't into it at all, so I just said "Listen, I was the one who was more concerned than you about it on that night. Remember? Think about it..." Which I was. I wanted to know she was clean as a whistle. We had both gotten out of long terms. However, I'm old enough to know not to trust girls about this so not sure why I bought it. Anyways I waited until yesterday and just sent a text asking "So you're ok then?" Got no reply. Just seems weird. Not sure what that was all about. Unfortunately, I really really liked this girl. But I have no intentions to pursue her. I'm just confused as to my responsibility with this situation. Edited August 1, 2011 by lalalandman
Author lalalandman Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Alright. Taken. Fair. One other question, and I know this is completely hypothetical, but what was the point of her sending me this text??
thatone Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 same reason as her responding to you in the first place. she was probably lying to you the whole time. she has a boyfriend and when she isn't happy with him she accepts one of the many approaches she receives at work to get attention from somewhere else. that's probably why he was so mad at her. she's fishing for you to start calling/texting her again. don't take the bait.
Author lalalandman Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Alright. Well, I'll just brush that off. Weird though.
Lucky_One Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I would guess that he is harassing the everliving crap out of her, badgering her to find out if you two had sex. She keeps telling him she did not (technically not true, but sorta true if you want to believe that it is sorta true), but she is petrified because you did enter her one time and she is worried that you have something. Her BF may even be going with her to the dr because he wants to hear from the horses mouth that everything looks ok and doesn't trust her to tell him the truth, and she is scared that her check up with come up with something to prove to BF that she hasn't been entirely honest. I think the BF sounds a little controlling and scary, and I think you will do best for yourself to stay away from her as much as possible. I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't feel afraid and lost, and she doesn't have the support system or inner strength to walk away from an abusive (or bordering on abusive) relationship.
dispatch3d Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 This is nuts. Chick needs to get her **** together with the ex. End of story. I would have not been going to her work, and that phone call is frigin weird. I have no interest in being involved in some chicks drama.
Author lalalandman Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Ha. I really think she is trying to get away from this dude. It's really too bad because we hit it off really well, but unfortunately I can't get involved. I could see her possibly hitting me up down the line.
olivec Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 You dont need that type of drama bro. I hope everything works out for ya and you find somebody without any crazy drama like that.
thatone Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Ha. I really think she is trying to get away from this dude. It's really too bad because we hit it off really well, but unfortunately I can't get involved. I could see her possibly hitting me up down the line. it's easy for her to make you think that because it's what you want to hear. experience will teach you not to believe it, because until proven otherwise it's bullsh*t.
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