limbonada Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 So someone said to me last night "If you could sit in your parents kitchen and talk to your 15 yr. old self about this situation you're in now, would you still tell them to pick your husband when the time came?" Yes. I would. Yes, he hurt me (not physically of course!) and yes I did things I'm now ashamed of, how I treated him was no where near stellar, but I was looking at him the other day and yes, I would still choose him everytime. No regrets, even in the bad. Even if this ends, and that will feel like it will kill me. And it's not just because oh well without him my daughters wouldn't be here. It's everything. I still fully believe this man is my soulmate. I don't even know if I would warn my 15 year old self about how not to be or what will happen. I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason and I have learned many things from our marriage/this relationship. So how about you? Would you tell you to steer clear?
andyg99 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 actually I'd give my 15 year-old self a list of stocks that he should invest in... but seriously I agree with you, I believe in the old saying "we are where we need to be"....
willowthewisp Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Absolutely I would warn myself! What my ex did to me was a lesson I did not need to learn. Two and half years out, nothing good has come from what he did to me, nothing. He not only treated me terribly, he took my innocence, hope and beliefs and changed me forever. That was something that I did not deserve and something I should never have had to go through at the hands of another, a cruel and hateful other person. I wish I had never set eyes on him, let alone wasted 20 years, my youth, with someone so undeserving of my love.
2.50 a gallon Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 Wouldn't that be great. I would have two things to say Ask Chris to go out with you When you meet Peggy, RUN!
guiltofone Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I would tell my self to steer clear of all the choices I made. Everyone would be better off without me in their lives.
jaymz Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 I'd still pick my wife, regardless. This is a hard one. I would probably give my self some books, like "his needs, her needs" and tell myself to get them out when I'm 25 and read them. That way I could possibly avoid the situation i am going through now but part of me believes i would only postpone it until later in life. I would repeat everything to get my kids, never change that.
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