Chi townD Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 LOL! Does the entire country of England vacation is Ibiza? I swear you're about the 8th person that's going there! You have to remind yourself, she ended it. Not you! She made the decision to have you out of her life and that's EXACTLY what you should give her! If I were you, I wouldn't be around on friday. I would see if your sister could be there to oversee the move....but that's just me. If she gets mad that you're not there just ask her if she got her stuff, if she says," Yeah" then you reply, " Then, what are you bitchin about?"
Author mcfuzz Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 LOL! Does the entire country of England vacation is Ibiza? I swear you're about the 8th person that's going there! You have to remind yourself, she ended it. Not you! She made the decision to have you out of her life and that's EXACTLY what you should give her! If I were you, I wouldn't be around on friday. I would see if your sister could be there to oversee the move....but that's just me. If she gets mad that you're not there just ask her if she got her stuff, if she says," Yeah" then you reply, " Then, what are you bitchin about?" Ha I think they do, awesome choons and hopfully lots of girls to talk my mind of things ;-) My mate has offered to come round for moral support tommorrow so I will prob take him up on that if things get to weird. I will update you all afterwards with what happens... Cheers
Author mcfuzz Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 Evening all, Another update after a bit of an emotional day.... Ex came round to tonight to pick up the rest of the stuff. We ended up having a another heart to heart to try and clear the air, which to begin with did not go well as we both just got upset and angry with each other. I explained that I took the keys off her to regain some control over my life and that I was not happy with her being in the house by herself since I had lost a bit of trust between us. I think now when I type this, telling her that was a mistake as she got upset over that and questioned if I ever trusted her. I replied that I did when we were in a relationship, but once she wanted to end it how could I fully trust her now when she could not trust me with her true feelings that the relationship was not working for her. She was very upset about the trust thing, but for me once she started moving her things out, how could I now trust her 100%, if she was capable of breaking my heart? After a bit of time and after we both calmed down we both explained to each other why these things were hurting for us. I think we left things fairly amaciably, which made me feel a bit better as I did not want it ending on a sour note. She needs to pick up the very last of her stuff tommorow morning and then we are going to the bank to close the joint account. After that I am going to go out for a few beers with some of my close friends to hopefully start the long process of properly moving on from the relationship. And I am defintely going NC from tommorrow. Hopefully that will give me closure in my mind. I think I am also pretty lucky in that I have a good group of friends who are helping me out, keeping me positive and spending time with me. This forum is helping me out too, so would be grateful again for any comments, espcially around how I dealt with some of the bitterness... Also on the plus side, holiday to Ibiza in one week and one day
loverboy1984 Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 your cure is in Ibiza. Have fun buddy. I know once you travel healing happens faster and partying in Ibiza with the gorgeous ladies, awesome music, and great atmosphere will take your mind off it all.
Author mcfuzz Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 your cure is in Ibiza. Have fun buddy. I know once you travel healing happens faster and partying in Ibiza with the gorgeous ladies, awesome music, and great atmosphere will take your mind off it all. Yeah I hope so, I love dance music, so I am hopeful that it will be a good release for me. I'm not looking to pull when I am out there, just enjoy the music, the drinks and spending some time with my little bro. Of course if a pretty lady says hello, it would be rude to ignore her Tommorrow evening should be cool as well catching up with a few of my good mates.
Author mcfuzz Posted August 30, 2011 Author Posted August 30, 2011 Long overdue update: Need a little bit of advice again, but first a small update for those who are interested Had an awesome time in Ibiza, maybe thought about ex once or twice in the whole week, and even then it was maybe for a few minutes or so. Got back, running 3 times a week and cycling every so often too, signed up to do a 10k run as well. Two weeks ago, signed up to an internet dating website, as I think I am mentally ready to start dating again. Got talking to a girl, called her and then met up yesterday. Had a great time, did not feel weird and I am taking a bit of a shine to her. However.... Today, my ex sent me a txt saying she was in the neighbourhood tonight and was wanting to know if she could pop round and say hello! Typical timing. I decided to make up a bit of an excuse, and said my sister was coming round, but I am really annoyed as I now feel a little mixed up about both her motives and if I actually wanted to see her. My head is saying I did the right thing, as I dont think it would have done any good bring out emotion and memories that I am trying to move on from. But my god I feel like crap now... Reassurance required please
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