TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I know I keep going on about 'The morning's' but I'm getting really really fed up with it now!! I'm not too bad during the day and the night's don't seem to bother me but every morning, as soon as I open my eyes BAM!! I feel sick and panicky and completely shut off from the world, it's really frightening How can I manage this? Thanks in advance x
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t287004/ Yes I admitted that I've vented about this before..
xxmcvapourxx Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 tainted i know how you feel.i feel exactly the same look at my post i just posted i cant control my feelings for my x girlfriend i cant sleep im not eating all i keep doing is looking at facebook.im doing a no contact but its killing my heart thinking about her all the time.i dont know what else i can do either.
chloe56 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Hey, It is tough but, you will get there. Try to have something to look forward to in the mornings, easier said than done I know, for example: walking the dog, watching the news (with Eamon Holmes, he is cheeky, but seriously i then feel there is a world still out there apart from my pain ) etc. Of course time, just make sure you do nice things for you in the morning e.g: cleansing shower, fresh coffee/tea (if its your thing). Hope it helps. Take care gorgeous.
brokendreamz Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 USE THE PAIN AS FUEL !!! I suffer from this too and now, as soon as I open my eyes I get the funk out of bed, splash cold water on my face, plug in my ipod and run 5 miles with the music LOUD!! Give it a go - after a couple of weeks it starts to fade.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 USE THE PAIN AS FUEL !!! I suffer from this too and now, as soon as I open my eyes I get the funk out of bed, splash cold water on my face, plug in my ipod and run 5 miles with the music LOUD!! Give it a go - after a couple of weeks it starts to fade. Yeah you're right, instead of laying there letting the pain eat away at me I should jump out of bed, why are the mornings soooo hard??!! I'm not able to listen to music yet because I'm an emotional reck
geegirl Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I know I keep going on about 'The morning's' but I'm getting really really fed up with it now!! I'm not too bad during the day and the night's don't seem to bother me but every morning, as soon as I open my eyes BAM!! I feel sick and panicky and completely shut off from the world, it's really frightening How can I manage this? Thanks in advance x I used to feel the same way. Mornings were a b****. Days and nights were easy. As soon as you open your eyes, don't lay there and let the mind take over. Consciously tell yourself to stop. Get up. Move. Turn on the shower. I have the radio tuned to a funny talk show so it keeps me laughing and forgetting. Think about what you want to wear, take your shower, make your breakfast, what you have to do at work...etc. You get the idea. Move fast and think about your day. Dragging yourself will make you think and keep you a mopey and sad state.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 I used to feel the same way. Mornings were a b****. Days and nights were easy. As soon as you open your eyes, don't lay there and let the mind take over. Consciously tell yourself to stop. Get up. Move. Turn on the shower. I have the radio tuned to a funny talk show so it keeps me laughing and forgetting. Think about what you want to wear, take your shower, make your breakfast, what you have to do at work...etc. You get the idea. Move fast and think about your day. Dragging yourself will make you think and keep you a mopey and sad state. Thanks hun. I know I HAVE to stop letting my mind take over! I listen to a talk show at night which helps me so I'll switch it on as soon as I wake up! It's a bummer when I wake up at 5am though
geegirl Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Yep, the mind is a powerful thing. One bad thought and it will grow like weeds. I used to literally shout and tell myself to stop and focus on other things. Yes, listen to something funny or something that will keep you engaged. I used to listen to a language CD sometimes when I woke up...made my brain work on something else!
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 Yep, the mind is a powerful thing. One bad thought and it will grow like weeds. I used to literally shout and tell myself to stop and focus on other things. Yes, listen to something funny or something that will keep you engaged. I used to listen to a language CD sometimes when I woke up...made my brain work on something else! I do the same, I argue with myself some mornings. Thank god for LBC, ha! As soon as the sun rises I open my blindes, I'm not sure why I've stared doing this, think it makes me feel less shut away from the outside world..
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 (edited) I'm right there with you, but imagine having to live in the same apartment complex as your ex while feeling that way! That is what I'm going through. Luckily the leases end this month and my ex and I are moving to different places. But this whole time since the break up he has lived in the building right across from me. If I walk by his building I can even see if he's home by whether the lights are on or off. I'm avoiding him now, but it has been even harder for me to move forward knowing that he is right there. I come home at the end of the day and he is RIGHT THERE... I could just bang on his window and see him instantly, and there have been times in the last several days when it took every last ounce of strength that I didn't know I had to stay away from him. My life will be drastically easier when I move... at least he won't practically be my neighbor anymore. But seriously, if you need someone to talk to send me a PM and maybe we can chat on instant message or something. I relate to your feelings. Edited July 17, 2011 by DontWorryBHappy
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 I'm right there with you, but imagine having to live in the same apartment complex as your ex while feeling that way! That is what I'm going through. Luckily the leases end this month and my ex and I are moving to different places. But this whole time since the break up he has lived in the building right across from me. If I walk by his building I can even see if he's home by whether the lights are on or off. I'm avoiding him now, but it has been even harder for me to move forward knowing that he is right there. I come home at the end of the day and he is RIGHT THERE... I could just bang on his window and see him instantly, and there have been times in the last several days when it took every last ounce of strength that I didn't know I had to stay away from him. My life will be drastically easier when I move... at least he won't practically be my neighbor anymore. But seriously, if you need someone to talk to send me a PM and maybe we can chat on instant message or something. I relate to your feelings. I'd love to chat on PM but I don't know how to, do you have to pay to use it?
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Ah ok i just noticed you aren't an "established member", which I think just means that you dont have enough posts to PM or something. However, LS has a coping chat room right here: http://tinychat.com/myrelationship or if there is another place online to do chatting I would be glad to talk with you there too.
DontWorryBHappy Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Also if you go in the chat room right now, my name is "Hi". lol
Yona88 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I just wanted to say your post is literally what I would have posted if I were more awake right now. Was doing so well the last couple days. It sucks..
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 I just wanted to say your post is literally what I would have posted if I were more awake right now. Was doing so well the last couple days. It sucks.. It does! What time is it where you are? I feel better once I've woken up properly but it would be nice to wake up without this dull feeling every morning.
Yona88 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I'm MDT so it's 1:15 PM right now. I totally get where you are coming from though. Weird thing is I didn't have this feeling yesterday and was doing pretty good. I feel as though I should spend less time on the computer because of it. But no, what do I do? Hop on the Facebook first thing. :/
Yona88 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 It's like we must force ourselves to do things to keep our mind off it, even if we don't want to do them. Yesterday I was listening to music and playing on Youtube, and chatting with old friends I hadn't talked to in like 2 years. This helped. It's just hard to start acting normal again.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 I've had this feeling every single morning since the split! I hate it Do you go on facebook to scope out your ex's profile? I've been spending a lot of time on here, it helps loads! Music is a no go area for me I know my ex is getting on with it, just like nothing has happend. I should do the same but I can't, this makes me angry with myself!
SWAN808 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I've had this feeling every single morning since the split! I hate it Do you go on facebook to scope out your ex's profile? I've been spending a lot of time on here, it helps loads! Music is a no go area for me I know my ex is getting on with it, just like nothing has happend. I should do the same but I can't, this makes me angry with myself! hey there - sounds awful what you are going thru...I have had something similar - when I was young and went to boarding school. Homesickness is a similar sort of heartbreak - and the mornings are the worst...you will get thru it and find someone else...really glad this place is helping you...
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 hey there - sounds awful what you are going thru...I have had something similar - when I was young and went to boarding school. Homesickness is a similar sort of heartbreak - and the mornings are the worst...you will get thru it and find someone else...really glad this place is helping you... It's a horrible feeling, I can't really explain it. Thank you x
Yona88 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I've had this feeling every single morning since the split! I hate it Do you go on facebook to scope out your ex's profile? I've been spending a lot of time on here, it helps loads! Music is a no go area for me I know my ex is getting on with it, just like nothing has happend. I should do the same but I can't, this makes me angry with myself! I'm not going to deny it, I do check his profile. I also use Facebook to keep in contact with friends that I have totally neglected over the past few years. This does help. I'm glad to have friends that still stick by me even though I haven't seen them in forever. Right now my thoughts are focused on trying to better myself. It's crazy how insecure and low self esteem you get from this stuff.
Author TaintedHeart Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 I'm not going to deny it, I do check his profile. I also use Facebook to keep in contact with friends that I have totally neglected over the past few years. This does help. I'm glad to have friends that still stick by me even though I haven't seen them in forever. Right now my thoughts are focused on trying to better myself. It's crazy how insecure and low self esteem you get from this stuff. I posted a thread called 'Wish facebook would vanish' Take a look..
Yona88 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Will do. Gotta say, I wish it did vanish. lol For some reason the site only makes me feel worse. I ended up lurking profiles earlier of girls in his area (something I really don't normally do!), only to find there are a ton of independent and beautiful women out in our hometown that choose not to be in relationships. Bleh, I'm gonna go outside for a bit. Could use a walk. No facebook.
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