fortyninethousand322 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I hung out with a friend from high school the other day. He's a fairly good friend, but I hadn't seen him in over a year since he had moved far away and only just recently moved back home. In any case he told me that there's a girl he works with that he wants me to meet. He said he thinks she's my type, is single, inexperienced (though somewhat hung up on an ex), and attractive. However, he didn't really lay out any kind of definitive plans for me to actually meet her. Every other time when someone says there's some girl they want me to meet, I never get to meet the girl, they either forget about it or they don't really care. This time, my friend showed me the girl's facebook, and she sounds like a pretty interesting person, but I don't want to get all hung up on her if I'm not actually going to meet her. Granted, the ball is kind of in my friend's court, but how do I get him to introduce me to her without seeming pushy?
thatone Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 jesus christ man, you gotta be on your best behavior around women but you're telling me that you can't just tell one of your male friends what you think of the girl and to arrange a meeting without worrying about what HE thinks? screw what he thinks, tell him you're interested and to set it up, and make it quick.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 jesus christ man, you gotta be on your best behavior around women but you're telling me that you can't just tell one of your male friends what you think of the girl and to arrange a meeting without worrying about what HE thinks? screw what he thinks, tell him you're interested and to set it up, and make it quick. Ok. I was more not wanting to seem pushy to the girl, not necessarily my friend. Anyway since I've never actually arranged a blind date before, what do I do say to him "I'd like to take her out to dinner or coffee/whatever"? Is that a good idea? I have no idea if he's even told her about me at all.
thatone Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 just tell him you're interested in seeing her, he has female friends apparently so he'll know what to say and do. let him take care of it.
grkBoy Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 I hung out with a friend from high school the other day. He's a fairly good friend, but I hadn't seen him in over a year since he had moved far away and only just recently moved back home. In any case he told me that there's a girl he works with that he wants me to meet. He said he thinks she's my type, is single, inexperienced (though somewhat hung up on an ex), and attractive. However, he didn't really lay out any kind of definitive plans for me to actually meet her. Every other time when someone says there's some girl they want me to meet, I never get to meet the girl, they either forget about it or they don't really care. This time, my friend showed me the girl's facebook, and she sounds like a pretty interesting person, but I don't want to get all hung up on her if I'm not actually going to meet her. Granted, the ball is kind of in my friend's court, but how do I get him to introduce me to her without seeming pushy? First off, make sure you give a definite answer to the friend...so he/she knows to make it happen. Too often some people give passive answers and thus the friend doesn't bother because he/she is worried about an uncomfortable situation. You could also try Friend Requesting her and mention your friend thought you two should meet, and thus you wanted to get to know her.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 First off, make sure you give a definite answer to the friend...so he/she knows to make it happen. Too often some people give passive answers and thus the friend doesn't bother because he/she is worried about an uncomfortable situation. You could also try Friend Requesting her and mention your friend thought you two should meet, and thus you wanted to get to know her. So should I mention a specific activity/date, or should I do like thatone suggested and just tell my friend I'd like to meet this girl and let him set it up? You really think friend requesting her on facebook is a good strategy?
grkBoy Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 So should I mention a specific activity/date, or should I do like thatone suggested and just tell my friend I'd like to meet this girl and let him set it up? I would tell the friend you are definitely interested in meeting her, then ask when and how we should do it. If he gets passive or doesn't "get back to you" then maybe mention it or what not. You really think friend requesting her on facebook is a good strategy? I guess if she knows your friend well, then people would possibly be open to meeting new folk. I would take a risk and friend request her, tossing in the note that _____ (insert friend's name) thinks highly of you and pointed you out to me. I just wanted to say hi and possibly get to know you better. You don't have to...but if you think your buddy won't bother, then take a risk. What do you have to lose? Just don't come out trying to date her immediately. Chat a bit, get to know one another, make her comfortable with you, then see if the chemistry is flaring up online.
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