i drunk dialed my ex , he flipped the script..now im the text book psycho ex gf

[TooMuchPride]

not too long ago id say a few weeks my ex was crying and begging me back and told me he was inlove me...we stop speaking for about a week or so and last night I got VERY drunk and ended up drunk dialing him...i cried , told him I was inlove with him and I wanted to fix it thinking it would work out because he told me he was inlove with me and wanted to fix it and he rejected me flipped the whole script told me he didn't wanna fix it he wants to go his seperate ways , he is happy single..and that he doesnt care about me getting closure so he isnt gonna answer any of the questions i have...few weeks ago he would answer anything and made it seem like he had been dying without me swore he had nothing goin on with any1 but i felt like he was still lying about stuff so i didnt give in n kept testing him....after i drunk dialed him and lost ALL my pride by basically begging him to get back with me and telling him im inlove with him he told me he'd call me back after he sleeps....by 3 he didnt call me so i called him and he ignored me for the whole day...i feel crazy because I ended up texting him and called him like 20 times because I'm just so confused and now I'm sure I look like the typical psycho ex gf...i feel like he set me up after we broke up i didnt contact him at all for 3 months i was so strong and i was moving on...he broke my gaurd by making me believe he was hurting without me...he waited for me to admit I had feelings and now he is cutting me off wont answer me and has no remorse or empathy..he flat out doesnt care...and i honestly think he doesnt because he completely blanked me no emotional reaction to me at all...i know everyones gonna say let it go and move on...but can you understand my shock when he flipped the script and now it seems like I'm the 1 who messed up?...more than anything now my ego is damaged and I'm not saying this because I don't like her but he is apparently dating a girl who honestly isn't any competition to me at all...all I can do is cry and cry at the fact that he is ignoring me like I did something...i have no idea what to do because i feel so stupid for letting him back in only to have him reject me on purpose like he planned it...i dont think he is ever going to speak to me again..i have a feeling he does this to every girl he dates...how can u tell me ur inlove with me and wanna be with me and 2 weeks later act like you hate me?

 

does any1 understand this or wanna give me some advice? im losing it.

Edited July 17, 2011 by TooMuchPride

[wilsonx]

I definitely understand the pain you are going through. We all here do. This is why you have to do everything to remove him from your life and move forward, not backwards.

 

He did what he did to make himself feel better about himself and his breakup with you. When you did, he cut you off. I know you are in a lot of pain but you will come out of this stronger wiser and a better person if you do everything possible to move forward with your life without him in it

[leoc1973]

I am confused... you dumped him? Crushed him and 3 months later he comes and still pretty much tells you he is in love with you and begs you back. You decide to let the poor guy sweat it out for 2 more weeks and now when he has someone new you finally want him back? Sounds like my ex and she deserves it. Guys feel pain too and are not toys for when you decide you want to play with them. Next time realize what you have on your side of the fence!

[TooMuchPride]

I am confused... you dumped him? Crushed him and 3 months later he comes and still pretty much tells you he is in love with you and begs you back. You decide to let the poor guy sweat it out for 2 more weeks and now when he has someone new you finally want him back? Sounds like my ex and she deserves it. Guys feel pain too and are not toys for when you decide you want to play with them. Next time realize what you have on your side of the fence!

 

 

he dumped me...and i intiated the contact after 3 months causing him to tell me he was inlove...he is a very manipulative guy...i was inlove with him too but i was afraid to get back with him cause i couldnt take the hurt....i was trying to see if he was serious about us....and it seemed he wasnt....i realy shouldnt have even begged him back it was the alcohol and now he is completely ignoring me...it feels as if he was just waiting for me to admit i loved him to move on....

 

i appreciate ur opinion maybe i really am in the wrong...but he lies about EVERYTHING..i was tryna protect myself...do u think hes just angry?....did u ignore ur ex? forever?

[leoc1973]

I apologize so much! My ex girlfriend dumped me and then she waited 2 months contacted me told me I was the love of her life all that breadcrumb stuff. She always initiates contact and I always fall for it. Everytime she does I respond and we go back and forth a couple times and then back to nothing. It starts the pain all over again. She pretends like she wants to be with me but just can't.

 

Once again I apologize profusely I thought you were playing games with him. If a man wants to be with you then there is nothing he will stop at to do it. Try dating someone new maybe that will wake him up or you will get over him. Just make sure its casual and you don't hurt some other guy who might really be a good guy and not deserve it.

 

Someone else on this site has a quote on the bottom of their posts that says If X wanted to X would be with you. I tell myself that all the time to help me move on. I feel like such a jerk and sorry again!

[TooMuchPride]

I apologize so much! My ex girlfriend dumped me and then she waited 2 months contacted me told me I was the love of her life all that breadcrumb stuff. She always initiates contact and I always fall for it. Everytime she does I respond and we go back and forth a couple times and then back to nothing. It starts the pain all over again. She pretends like she wants to be with me but just can't.

 

Once again I apologize profusely I thought you were playing games with him. If a man wants to be with you then there is nothing he will stop at to do it. Try dating someone new maybe that will wake him up or you will get over him. Just make sure its casual and you don't hurt some other guy who might really be a good guy and not deserve it.

 

Someone else on this site has a quote on the bottom of their posts that says If X wanted to X would be with you. I tell myself that all the time to help me move on. I feel like such a jerk and sorry again!

 

 

awh thanks...but i cant say i didnt play games at all because i did....but only because he was...after he told me that during our 3 months break he had slept with people and lied about stuff i was really hurt so i started casual dating some1 else...the drunk call was the first time i spoke to him since he may have found out...so he could be upset at me seeing some1 but he did that same thing...only difference is i forgive him and he is acting as though he doesnt care about me at all i jus dont know....he told me he is dealing with some1 else and he doesnt want me at all he doesnt wanna be with me..wouldnt say why he doesnt wouldnt say why hes so angry but still said he was inlove with me just doesnt want me and jus 2-3 weeks ago the story was so different...and since that call although he said hed call em the next day he didnt and has ignored every call since...i do understand i may have hurt him cause when he was crying and stuff i said "lets be friends" and saw some1 else but i was so hurt by him i needed time...

 

 

in terms of ur ex....we all play games...u think maybe she is throwing breadcrumbs because shes scared of ur response....this forum really messes with you sometimes...think about it...have u ever sent breadcrumbs? if so were ur intentions bad?...everyone on this forum is so jadded that they only see the negative..im not saying go back to her...but no breakup is painless for the dumpee nor the dumper...

[leoc1973]

I don't think I have ever played games with her. I told her that she is the love of my life (she told me the same). I have even said look I don't wanna play games with you, either you love me or you don't. I tell her that right now she has my heart and I want to be with her but there will come a point where I will meet someone new and it will be too late. She says I know you will and I love you so much all I want is for you to be happy. But then every time she hears I have been on a date or seeing somene she comes around again with the crap. I long for the day where she does come around and I can seriously look her in the eyes and tell her to take a hike!