Timbo22 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Just when you start to forget about them BOOM! Well My ex added me on facebook and blew my phone up full of texts...I didnt respond to anything...Until she said lets meet up and she called my phone a million times.... Well finally i answered and talked to her, Of course her recent bf just broke up with her. She then stressed how much she misses me. We caught up on alot of things and I couldnt get her of the phone. She also apologized for everything she ever did and they way she hurt me... I ended the phone call, and she said I miss you, and I replied " I miss you too" It has been about 6months since or break-up and we dated 3 1/2 years and I really thought she was the one. Anyway I have never been in this situation and I dont wanna me a doormat, any advice is greatly appreciated.
Mcnulty Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Sounds like she's been rejected, is down and vulnerable and needs a comfort blanket...you. Be very careful how you progress this.. if you do. I would think long and hard about starting up a friendship even.
SelfControl Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 In order to give advice, let's get some information first: How old are each of you? Who broke up with whom? In your opinion, what were the reasons you broke up in the first place?
Author Timbo22 Posted July 16, 2011 Author Posted July 16, 2011 Im 22 she is 21, She broke up with me because she felt like I was not letting her enjoy the college lifestyle.... She also said she felt for me and didnt understand that i was scared is all.... This is alot to take in and I dont wanna get my hopes up... I feel like I already have..
wilsonx Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 In order to give advice, let's get some information first: How old are each of you? Who broke up with whom? In your opinion, what were the reasons you broke up in the first place? This is a given, she apologized to him, shes the dumper. Age also really does not play a factor in this. The reasons do not matter either. Shes trying to soothe her own ego and thats it. Stick to NC and ignore her. I would definitely advise right now NOT to take her back if she comes back because you will be the doormat as you stated earlier. You will be your ex's rebound and I do not know about you but that would crush me internally if I ever did that. Wait I was my own rebound in this last relationship and it did crush me. Speaking from experience, stick to NC and I mean dont answer her 104394858 phone calls or texts or emails. Just ignore her and move forward
SelfControl Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Im 22 she is 21, She broke up with me because she felt like I was not letting her enjoy the college lifestyle.... She also said she felt for me and didnt understand that i was scared is all.... This is alot to take in and I dont wanna get my hopes up... I feel like I already have.. At this age women fall in and out of love very quickly, which is why I asked. Not sure I understand, what do you mean by 'didn't understand that I was scared is all'? What specifically did she mean by you not letting her enjoy the 'college lifestyle'?
Author Timbo22 Posted July 16, 2011 Author Posted July 16, 2011 She basically told me I was suffocating her and thats why she took a break which ended in a break-up... 6months later she says "I understand why you were like that, you were just scared is all." A complete mind**** if u ask me... I guess she thought I was scared of her partying and enjoying college and meeting someone else.... Which is not me at all but I may have been a bit controlling... Nothing serious enough to end a relationship, I guess I was wrong. but that was on her.
Rinas Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Best thing to do is resume your NC. You were on a good progress to moving on. Wilsonx is head on with this. She may be rebounding, it's best to stay clear.
geegirl Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 If her boyfriend did not breakup with her, we most likely won't be having this conversation. Recognize the sudden barrage of communication. She's on the rebound and desperate. She needs someone to soothe her, distract her, fill her sudden void and take her away, temporarily from the discomfort. That's all. If she wasnt dumped, you would not have heard from her. You know this.
Graceful Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 She says, "Jump!" and you say, "How high?" Nope, you're not fallin' for that, are you? Oldest trick in the book. She broke up with you. Found another guy. Now other guy is gone Cue sympathy music. This is one of the most transparent, tired, recycled, over-used, over done, insincere, inept, unoriginal, and just plain PATHETIC forms of an ex thinking they control you. Have you on the back burner "just in case". Oh, really? Well, it's up to you, of course, but call her bluff and go NC STAT. And stay that way. See how hard she tries to knock your door down. If you don't want to be a doormat, it's really very simple: get off the floor and stand up for yourself. The air's much nicer up here, don't you think? Take care. Just when you start to forget about them BOOM! Well My ex added me on facebook and blew my phone up full of texts...I didnt respond to anything...Until she said lets meet up and she called my phone a million times.... Well finally i answered and talked to her, Of course her recent bf just broke up with her. She then stressed how much she misses me. We caught up on alot of things and I couldnt get her of the phone. She also apologized for everything she ever did and they way she hurt me... I ended the phone call, and she said I miss you, and I replied " I miss you too" It has been about 6months since or break-up and we dated 3 1/2 years and I really thought she was the one. Anyway I have never been in this situation and I dont wanna me a doormat, any advice is greatly appreciated.
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