Eternal Sunshine Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, falls head over heels in love with her and leaves me - then what we have is not much and I am better off finding that out sooner rather than later?
oaks Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, I'm sure I said that you're not allowed to have thoughts like that. But, yes, it's usually best to get the bad news sooner rather than later so that you can hurry up and get over it.
Els Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Very valid. Any couple that stands a chance for the long run should be able to withstand a month apart.
anne1707 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, falls head over heels in love with her and leaves me - then what we have is not much and I am better off finding that out sooner rather than later? ES This is true but stop putting all the responsibility for the future of your relationship on your bf. For all you know, you could meet someone whilst he's away..... If you keep displaying this lack of trust in his feelings and commitment to you, you will kill the relationship. How about relaxing and enjoying what you have with him.
Valid Sintax Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, falls head over heels in love with her and leaves me - then what we have is not much and I am better off finding that out sooner rather than later? I declare it valid. I too think that you sound a little negative, thinking about the worst, when it sounds like nothing has happened as of yet. But, yes, if he finds someone else, better to know, break up, and move on, than to have him hide an affair until you find out about it.
rafallus Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, falls head over heels in love with her and leaves me - then what we have is not much and I am better off finding that out sooner rather than later? Insecurities attack again? But yes, if that was the case, better for you to know earlier - less time wasted, and time cannot be given back.
Dazdnconfuzed Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 ES, Are you projecting? Seems like you are more prone to act on your line of thinking then he is, the constant need of reassurance, the insecurities of him liking other females, the need to control (which life has taught me is only an illusion) him. It will not happen, he is not going to Europe to fall madly in love with anyone, stop trying to detach and check yourself out of the relationship in hopes to be able to disassociate the pain and displace the blame if something where to happen. It will hurt regardless and you will not be the victor. SNAP OUT OF IT WOMAN.
NoReallyThatHappened Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Well if you feel head over heels for hot chocolate guy then yes, you should tell your BF sooner rather than later.
David Cain Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 If my boyfriend meets someone during his month in Europe, falls head over heels in love with her and leaves me - then what we have is not much and I am better off finding that out sooner rather than later? First off if he meets someone while he's with you then he's cheating so that's nothing near real love. So if he cheats then you're better off with someone else. Has his recent behavior put you off in some way?
Star Gazer Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 This is true but stop putting all the responsibility for the future of your relationship on your bf. For all you know, you could meet someone whilst he's away..... She already has. She doesn't trust herself. "Temptation, temptation," as she says.
anne1707 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 She already has. She doesn't trust herself. "Temptation, temptation," as she says. Oh I've seen the thread. But somehow it is still the poor bf's fault. ES - if you want to have a proper grown-up relationship then the boundaries and behaviours you want your partner to demonstrate also need to be demonstrated by you. How about starting off with respect?
Art_Critic Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 ES.. you need to NOT let your head go down this road... stop it now...
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