chocolatep30 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 [We're both college students and this happened in our college town a little over two weeks ago. He's staying there for the summer, but I was only there temporarily]. Sorry about it being so long! But if you want, you can skip the first paragraph - it's basically the details about our hook-up. So I went out with a good guy friend (and co-worker during the school year) and a few of his friends. It was pretty late (3am) by the time we were back and we figured it was better that I stayed over at his place rather than him walk me back (which is a whole another thing - I was staying with a friend and it was likely that the door would be locked and I would have to wake her up in order to be let in). I assumed there would be a couch I could crash on but he didn't have one. So I just thought that I'll sleep on a blanket on the floor and so I asked him if he had an extra pillow. He got me one and when he found out I was planning on sleeping on the floor he told me I'd be sleeping on the bed (a twin). I tried to refuse (because I assumed that it would mean that he was gonna have to sleep somewhere else) but he insisted and ended up picking me up and putting me there. He then turned the lights off and got in bed with me. This was completely unexpected for me! He had his arm around me and my head was laying on his shoulder. I didn't mind, so I put my arm around him and he started stroking it. During all this, my mind was just going crazy with questions like "what the hell is going on?!!!" We talked for a little bit. And then we just started making out! And this was even MORE unexpected ! Slowly this turned into him taking my clothes off (he had some trouble as I was not wearing very easy-to-take-off stuff, so I helped him out). This went on for a while and he tried taking my panties off but I didn't let him. He tried several times. Then he tried just getting his hands down there and, again, I stopped him. He kind of kept trying again every now and then and didn't really stop trying until I verbally told him to. He tried kissing me there too but I pulled him away. At the end of the night we were both just in our underwear (bra not included). I'm pretty sure we made out for (at least) an hour straight - taking breaks to kiss *ahem* other places. And then we ended up in the same position we started in (my head on his shoulder and arm on his chest), just more naked. He asked me if I was doing ok and I said I was. He stroked my hair and kept kissing my forehead. In the morning, he let his alarm go off for like 15 mins and then when I asked him if he was gonna wake up (he had work), he just got up and turned it off and got back in bed with me (stroking, kissing forehead). Then his alarm went off again and he turned it off again and got back in bed. He laid there for about half an hour and then finally got up and got dressed. Before he left for work, he kissed me twice. We talked just like we normally do - there was no awkwardness. He got back from work in just a few hours that day and I was still there. So we ended up walking out together (he was leaving to go home for the weekend). I was also gonna leave town that day and did not know when I would be back. Before we went our own ways, we hugged and he told me to let him know when I got back. And now to the actual dilemma : I don't know if this was just a one-time thing or could it be something more? Normally I probably would've started to figure that out by now, but I don't think I'm going back for the summer. Which means I probably won't see him until our training for work starts. This means we will be in a very "exposed" environment since we'll all be living together and pretty much just spending every moment together so I think that could make it a little awkward. It's just driving me crazy thinking about this whole thing and not being able to do anything !! We've texted two-three times about random things. One was just him asking me home was treating me. Oh also, during this whole incident, I was not turned on at all!!!! I don't know if that means that I'm not attracted to him or if it was just because it was all so unexpected . Because, believe me, whenever I revisit the whole situation in my head, I AM turned on !! P.S. Before all this happened. I had just recently started to develop sort of a crush on him - nothing strong. And we always held hands when he walked me back to my place. But I never thought too much about that and just considered it a friend thing. This night I do remember him stroking my hand while we were walking. P.S.S. We had been drinking, but I don't think either of us was very drunk (or at least I wasn't).
oaks Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 And now to the actual dilemma : I don't know if this was just a one-time thing or could it be something more? Well, which do you want? Don't be so passive about it! Oh also, during this whole incident, I was not turned on at all!!!! I don't know if that means that I'm not attracted to him or if it was just because it was all so unexpected . Because, believe me, whenever I revisit the whole situation in my head, I AM turned on !! So... go on a date with him where you both know it's a date. Don't go back to his place afterwards. See how the date goes and whether you like him or not.
musemaj11 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Lol, this guy is good. The naivety of young women is incredible.
Author chocolatep30 Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 Well, which do you want? Don't be so passive about it! Well he's definitely one of the nicest guy I know and sometimes I mentally rate guys on whether they're good relationship material and he's always been quite on the top lol. So if there is chemistry (which I guess I'll know after going on a date ), I definitely want to be more than friends .
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