betterlife Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Hey everyone. Like some of you on here, I am going through a devastating break up. Despite how much of myself I invested into the relationship, it came crashing down and there was nothing in the world I could have done to prevent it. I've come to the realization that I have to "get busy living, or get busy dying" - a quote from The Shawshank Redemption. I've decided to post a thread that allows me to express myself in the most productive way possible. The rules are: I can post one negative statement about how I'm feeling (if needed!), followed by two positive statements, followed by a brief bullet-pointed plan for the day. I'm hoping this will help me to start moving forward more effectively. I have 4 days NC completed so far, but that means nothing if I'm not moving forward mentally. I strongly encourage anyone else to contribute to this too. Please do, this is not just my thread, it is everyone's. We can motivate each other. Just stick to the rules: - ONLY ONE negative statement (if needed) - 2 positive statements - A brief plan for your day I'll start: - I am feeling lost tonight without my ex and am wondering how he feels about me - I am a beautiful person who deserves to be loved and treated correctly. - The negative things that have occurred in my life can easily be turned into positives. Plan: - finish an online exam before I sleep - clean the bathroom - Make a to-do list of all the tasks I need to complete - go to an exercise class at school
bikinibeach Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 - Why didn't he choose me? - I have great energy that can light up the room - I am starting to develop a clearer sense of who I am..and I like me - Clean room - Plan and prepare meals for the week - Paperwork and phone calls - Clean car - Grace then mensour
Author betterlife Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 Awesome, bikinibeach!!!!!!!!!!!!! I actually managed to do everything but the exercise class - but in place of that I ran/walked home from campus (which takes probably about 30 minutes). - What if my ex doesn't want to be with me ever again? - I am a person who truly cares about the feelings of others and who is extremely honest, which are qualities not everyone has. - I have a tremendous amount of opportunities right in front of me that I am capable of excelling in. Plan: - Do the first 2 items on my to do list - Clean at least half of my room - Do at least one load of laundry - Go to one exercise class at school
Author betterlife Posted July 17, 2011 Author Posted July 17, 2011 P.S. I want to shamelessly advertise the LS coping room. Stop in and talk to likeminded LS folks who are going through what you are: http://tinychat.com/myrelationship
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