Need more explanation about controlling bf's and their spending habits.

[Blade96]

Cause when I was with my ex he did everything for me, even helped get a kitten to live with us and i'm not lying so help me when i say if that man didnt spend a couple thousand dollars on me in the 5 months i was with him he didnt spend a penny. I thought it was to get me to stay cause when I left him, I didnt mean jack to him anymore and he took everything that we got together for himself. Do controlling men do that so you'll stay? He even wanted me to grade very quickly in his own mind in karate and stopped caring about it he bought me everything, belts uniform, you name it. Do they spend all this money just so you'll stay? Or is there more complicated than that? I knew something was funny but i can't find anything about controlling men and their spending habits online. Could I have some more explanations or better elaborations please? I would really like it if you could. Thank you.

[GG3]

I can't follow your paragraph. You say he didn't spend a penny and then you say he spent a few thousand dollars....

[Rinas]

Men won't spend money on you just so you stay. Depends on the man in question. If he's controlling, his money has less to do with it than his character.

 

Also, I agree with the above poster, it's hard to understand what you're saying.

[Jynxx]

For me, spending money on a girl I'm dating isn't about buying her or controlling her, it's about making her happy the same way I make myself happy when I buy something for myself. I think the majority of the men fall in this category.

 

Also, spending thousands in a few months can be a lot or a little depending on his income and spending habbits.

[Blade96]

Oh, I'm sorry. It does mean he spent a lot of money on me. "if he never spent.......he didnt spend' Means he did. Sorry. maybe i just didnt make it clear. Oh well. Thank you anyway.

[musemaj11]

Maybe he should have spent the money to send you to a grammar school. Geez.