crushed0 Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 so i got married jan 28 and on june 11 i found out he was cheating. he has begged and pleaded and cried and acted crazy to get me back. i left out house that day. during the last month that we have been in separate houses he has continuned to convince me to come back. however the more times goes the more things i found out like he cheated on me at the wedding of the girl i caught him cheating with. and he has another girl hes having sex with. this wedding was in may. my marriage never had a chance. now let me make this clear he was not missing any sex from home. i'm a good housekeeper, bill payer on top of all house things and work as a nurse and taking classes to futher my degree. so i guess he was cheating the from the moment we started dating. i just dont get why he would do this. i'd love to hear others views cause i'm crushed and lost. i'm 29 this was 1st marriage.
whichwayisup Posted July 16, 2011 Posted July 16, 2011 Get an annulment or just divorce the guy. He isn't worth fighting for.. Sorry you're hurting.
jnj express Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 You know what he is, he made it very clear---get an anulment now before you have to go thru a D. You get one chance at life on this planet---the trip should be happy---right now you are miserable, and this guy will keep you that way---rid yourself of him
Eddie Edirol Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 He did it because he is the type that is convinced he wont be fully satisfied with one woman. He has probably been doing it for years before you. Problem is, there wee red flags that you ignored because you wanted to be married. There is no way he could be that slick to be engaged to you, and having sex with two other women without giving some kind of clues. Once you get yourself together, you need to remember what these red flags were so you dont get blindsided like this again.
April72 Posted July 17, 2011 Posted July 17, 2011 Run!!! And realize this is his issues... it had nothing to do with you!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 18, 2011 Posted July 18, 2011 so i got married jan 28 and on june 11 i found out he was cheating. he has begged and pleaded and cried and acted crazy to get me back. i left out house that day. during the last month that we have been in separate houses he has continuned to convince me to come back. however the more times goes the more things i found out like he cheated on me at the wedding of the girl i caught him cheating with. and he has another girl hes having sex with. this wedding was in may. my marriage never had a chance. now let me make this clear he was not missing any sex from home. i'm a good housekeeper, bill payer on top of all house things and work as a nurse and taking classes to futher my degree. so i guess he was cheating the from the moment we started dating. i just dont get why he would do this. i'd love to hear others views cause i'm crushed and lost. i'm 29 this was 1st marriage. Prioritize your curiosity here. I hope you will be the ultra-strong one who turns on her heels and never looks back at a (mistake) like that guy. If you so much as let ANYthing materialize between you and him again, I'm confident it will wreck your life far more than you can imagine the significant setback you describe having wrecked your life. The choice is yours: TEMPorary setback, or life-altering disaster? In a few weeks or months you will figure out just how unimportant the answer you seek really is, except as a point of curiosity.
LN99 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Run! That is what I'm doing! You can do so much better I'm sure. You are only enabling him by letting him get away with it over and over again. Let him find another woman or other women to be his doormat. This guy is selfish.....and he will never change. It's not you, it's him! I just found out the same with with my bf of 4 yrs. Not worth your time or tears. There are better ones out there. Now just to find them...
RecordProducer Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Get an annulment or just divorce the guy. He isn't worth fighting for.. Sorry you're hurting.What she said...
flutterbykiss Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 now let me make this clear he was not missing any sex from home. i'm a good housekeeper, bill payer on top of all house things and work as a nurse and taking classes to futher my degree. so i guess he was cheating the from the moment we started dating. i just dont get why he would do this. i'd love to hear others views cause i'm crushed and lost. i'm 29 this was 1st marriage. It is absolutely NOT your fault. He clearly didn't enter into your marriage with any intention of even trying to be faithful. Ask yourself: What kind of man (human being) would do that?! Do you love, admire or respect people like that?! You need to realize that some people are just faithless. I was once involved with a man who had had two affairs during his marriage. He told me that he had started cheating on his wife while they were still engaged. He actually went to a brothel the day they came back from their honeymoon and hadn't been more than a week without cheating during their whole marriage - even after she caught him. The day after he told me that I was out of there. I know he'd have done it to me, too (he probably even did). Try to look at your husbands actions objectively (not your feelings for him) and decide if that is the standard of man you want to be in your life, bringing up your children, etc. For me it came down to this... If I was hurt and in hospital would he be by my side or thinking it was an opportunity to slip off without any chance of getting caught? The fact that I even had to wonder put me off him completely. It's hard to realize that someone you thought was wonderful is actually an (expletive) SOB but it's a hell of a lot easier than continuing to love and adore someone that deceives and hurts you. Hang in there. Realize he is beneath you. Go get someone who deserves you.
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